Bridal Shoes – Finding the Perfect Wedding Shoes – Part 3

When brides look for their perfect bridal shoes, they are seeking a balance between style and comfort.  Many sacrifice their own comfort for the perfect style.  After all, you can endure a little foot pain for a few hours to get your dream wedding look, can’t you?  (NOT!)

Brides, read this series about finding the perfect bridal shoes. #weddingshoes #bridalshoes #wedding

After reading Part 1 of our series on wedding shoes, recent bride Marcie M. shared this with us:

Are you looking for the perfect bridal shoes? Read this series of articles about finding your perfect wedding shoes. #wedding #bridalshoes #weddingshoes

 

Thanks for sharing, Marcie.  We’ve heard from several brides and your comments summarize their feelings.  We appreciate everyone’s feedback.  There really is no reason to suffer  foot pain on your wedding day.

Read on for Part 3 of our series and prepare to select your perfect bridal shoes.  You can also find Perfect Wedding Shoes – 5 Tips for Selecting Yours – Part 1  and  Comfortable Wedding Shoes That Are Gorgeous Too – Part 2 on our blog. (We’ve also added the links at the links at the end of this article.)

Your Feet and Your Big Day – Pain FreeLooking for your perfect bridal shoes? Read our articles for tips and ideas of how to have style and comfort too. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes #bridalshoes

You are probably planning a pedicure for your big day.  In addition, you may want to invest in anti-blister foot product.  Runners and walkers use Body-Glide Anti Blister Balm to eliminate friction and blisters on their feet.  Brides are finally discovering it for their wedding day comfort. It is easy to apply and eliminates blisters created by your bridal shoes.    I have used it for several years in my personal walking program and  eliminated painful blisters.

The Perfect Bridal Shoes: Finding Your Right Heel Height

We all know that shoe heel height is a major issue in foot comfort (or pain!).  But how do you know the best heel height for you?

British podiatrist Emma Supple developed an effortless way to accurately measure the best heel height for everyone based on their individual foot.

I must admit, I was skeptical when I first saw it, but when I tried it.  It worked.  It really worked.  I found I had been wearing heels that were wrong me and when I made a ½ inch change in heel height, my foot pain vanished.

Supple recommends a maximum heel height of 3 inches high but notes that some women measure 4 or 5 inches.  Other elements of the shoe, such as a platform sole and foot flexibility can also impact your best heel height.

How to Find Your Perfect Heel Height for Your Bridal Shoes

  1. Ask a friend to help you.
  2. Get a piece of paper, pen/pencil and ruler.
  3. Place paper on the floor and lay the side of your foot with the ankle side down on the paper.  Make sure you keep your foot relaxed.
  4. Mark a dot on the paper where the bottom (not the back) of your heel touches the paper.
  5. Now, without moving your foot, mark a dot where the ball of your foot bends.
  6. Draw a straight line on the paper down from the dot where the bottom of your heel touched and a second straight line down from the dot where your foot bent at the ball.
  7. Measure distance between the lines and you have discovered your Perfect Heel Height. You will be most comfortable in wearing shoes with this height of heel.
  8. Easy, peasy.

Here is a picture from www.stilettocharm.com where you can read the entire article and all the medical jargon, if you are interested.

Your perfect bridal shoes begin with finding the best heel height for you. Measure your personlized fit with this easy formula. #weddingshoe #bride #brideshow

 

The Perfect Bridal Shoes: How to Tell If Your Heels Will Hurt – Before You Buy

1. Heel Cup

Pay attention to the heel cup of the shoe. Manufacturers often use a stiffening agent in the heel area that causes friction and blisters, especially when shoes are new.

If you can find the style you love, buy shoes made from natural materials as they are more pliable than synthetics.  If the cup hurts immediately when you try on shoes, the pain will not go away.  Consider a different shoe.

My niece, Shannon also told me about  Foot Petals – Heavenly Heelz inserts.  I found them to be snug heel pads that eliminated the heel pain for the shoes in my wardrobe that I just could not part with. ( Ahhh!  Relief! And I get to keep my favorites!  Thanks Shani.)

2.Correct Size

Be sure you are buying the correct size. Any shoe will hurt if it is too small.  You are going for comfort, so size up if you must.  No one will see your shoe size anyway.

There should be a space the width of your thumb from the front inside of your shoe to the end of your longest toe.  This space will give you the wiggle room you need to walk in comfort.  (Also, be aware of a space that is larger than this.  The bridal shoes are probably too big and will slip on your feet which creates a whole new area of foot pain.)

3. Selecting a Comfortable StyleRead our articles about finding the perfect bridal shoes for your big day. Comfort and style. #Bridalshoes #wedding shoe #wedding

Look for a comfortable style for your bridal shoes.  While sky high stilettos look great in bridal magazines, they leave many brides in agony and stumbling down the aisle.  Chunky heels, lowers heels, wedges, platforms and heels with buckles or straps offer support and make it easier to walk.

4. Best Time of Day to Buy Your Perfect Wedding Shoes

Your feet swell and stretch during the day. They can be as much as a half size bigger after a long day.  Buy shoes in the evening or when you have been on your feet for a while.  You’ll be on your feet for as much as eight hours on your wedding day, so be prepared for the worst.

5. Pack Emergency Foot Supplies

Pack a foot kit with things like band aids, blister pads and even gel inserts that will help with blisters and other foot pain and keep you dancing.  Hopefully you will not need them, but it is best to be prepared.

Practice Walking in Your Bridal Shoes 

Practice your walk in your bridal shoes. Even the best fitting shoe will be difficult to walk in if you are unaccustomed Finding your perfect bridal shoes means no more slipping as you walk down the aisle. Read our articles for all you need to know before you buy your wedding shoes. #wedding #bridalshoes #weddingshoes to walking in high heels.

Practice walking on surfaces like those you will face on your wedding day.  If you have rough terrain or steps, practice on those too, not just on your living room carpet.

If you are concerned about getting your bridal shoes soiled if you wear them outside, select shoes with similar height and style and practice in them.  Are your shoes slippery?  Add shoe grips and confidence to your walk.

While wearing your bridal shoes, practice putting your heel down first, followed by your toe.  The more you practice, the more confident you will be, and your walk look more natural.

Conclusion

So there you have the ups and downs (pun intended) of your perfect wedding shoes.  Heel height and a lot more acan impact how comfortable you are on your wedding day.  Plan ahead and take the time to find the bridal shoe style you love.  Consider your own wedding day comfort, before buying your bridal shoes.  It is truly your day to put your best foot forward.

 

Thanks for sharing your wedding trends and ideas. #wedding #wedding planningThanks to all the brides who read our unique (and sometime quirky) ideas.

Do you have your own ideas you would like to share?  We would love to hear from you.  After all you are the real wedding expert. When we use your idea in a future article or book, we will give you credit for it.

Forward your ideas and comments either by posting them in the comments or sending me an email.

 

Other Articles You Will Enjoy:

Perfect Wedding Shoes – 5 Tips for Selecting Yours – Part 1

Comfortable Wedding Shoes – That are Gorgeous Too – Part 2 

2019 Wedding Trends You Will Love 

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Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me if you have any questions.  You can reach me here.  I truly enjoy helping brides and learning from you.

I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.)

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Rita

 

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Read this article and lean more about your perfect bridal shoes. #weddingshoes #bridalshoes #bride Read to discover how you can have gorgeous bridal shoes without the pain. Part 3 in our shoe series. #weddingshoes #bridalsoes #wedding

 

 

Finding comfortable wedding shoes that also have the WOW factor can be a challenge. Read this article for 8 more tips about wedding shoes. Part 1 has lots of ideas too. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes #bridalshoes Comfortable Wedding Shoes are a Must. But how to do you comfort and style. Read this article of 8 more wedding shoe tips before your buy your shoes. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes #Weddingplanning Have the fairytale wedding shoes you have always dreamt about without aching feet. Read this before shop shopping. You can have it all. #bridalshoes #weddingplanning #wedding #bride Here is part 2 in our series about finding the perfect wedding shoes. Read the tips you need to know before your purchase your shoes. #bridalshoes #weddingplanning #bride One of a bride's biggest worries is how to have spectacular wedding shoes without aching feet. This article and the otehrs in te series have the answers you need to know before you buy your wedding shoes. #bride #bridalshoes #wedding

 

We added 7 more tips about bridal shoes to our series. Please read before you buy. #weddingshoes #bridalshoes #weddingplanning Looking for the perfect bridal shoes? Read these tips before your buy. No more aching feet. #weddingshoes #bride #bridalshoes Finding the right shoes for your wedding day can be a balance between style and comfort. Read all articles in our series. #bridalshoes #weddinghshoes #wedding

Comfortable Wedding Shoes – That Are Gorgeous Too – Part 2

Here is Part 2 in our series of about your Comfortable Wedding Shoes.   You do not have to give up the beauty and dazzle to have comfortable wedding shoes.  Read on to find how you can have your dream wedding shoes and enjoy your wedding day without aching feet.  Fairytales really do come true.

Have you been looking for comfortable wedding shoes that also look spectacular? Read this for i8 more tips you need to know before you buy your wedding shoes. #wedding #bride #bridalshoes #weddingshoes

 

Here are 8 more tips for wearing comfortable wedding shoes:

Don’t Wait Until the Last Minute to Purchase Your Comfortable Wedding Shoes

 In our first article, Perfect Wedding Shoes – 5 Tips for Selecting Yours – Part 1, we recommended that you purchase your dress before you purchase your bridal shoes.  This does not mean to wait until the last minute

Buy your wedding shoes well before your wedding day.  You really need to have them on hand before your first dress fitting.  You can take the time to shop for the perfect pair but remember the style and height of your shoes will have a dramatic impact on how your dress will look so you must have them for your dress fittings.

You’ll also want to have time to make sure they are comfortable, non-slippery and all the other little shoe-worries you can avoid when you have your shoes in advance.

Break In Your Comfortable Wedding Shoes

No matter how comfortable your shoes are when you purchase them, you need to break them in.  Give them the time to fit to your feet and and uncover any long-wear  comfort issues well in advance of your wedding day.  Worst case scenario is that you will find these are not your ideal shoes, or that you will need a second pair for the reception.  You can address all this well in advance of your wedding when you purchase your shows early.

One of the best ways to break in your bridal shoes without damaging them is to wear them around the house or even at work if your environment is conducive to fancy shoes.  Walk around in your wedding shoes for short, then longer periods of time.  Walking in your wedding shoes for these short (and increasingly longer) spurts of time will help them become comfortable for a long wedding day.  You really want to know how long you can walk in them and how your feet feel after hours of standing, walking and dancing.

Most brides are on their feet for as long as eight hours on their wedding day, and just a quick shoe try-on will not tell you how the shoes feel.  Remember no bride is happy when her feet ache.

Bring A Spare Pair – Change into Comfortable Wedding Shoes 

If you are looking for comfortable wedding shoes, we found them. You'll love the look and feel of these shoes. Multiple styles and colors. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes
Gorgeous Reception Shoes

Wearing your glamorous high heels for the entire wedding day is going to result to pain, no matter how comfortable you are in your wedding shoes.  So, what is a bride to do?

  1. Wear comfy bridal slippers while you are getting ready. Change into your princess heels only when you are about to enter your ceremony or if you are having pre-wedding pictures.  This may seem like overkill, but your feet will thank you later.
  2. Bring a spare pair of shoes to slip into for the reception. Lower heels will be so much more comfortable and elegant than walking around in your bare feet.

Lengthen Your Legs – Your  Shoes Change Your Wedding Look 

For the shorter bride, who wants to look taller, avoid shoes with an ankle strap or those that come up high on your foot.  While this really will not have a significant impact with a floor length dress, brides’ shorter dress styles will see more impact on their overlook as guests will see your shoes. And let’s face it, every short bride dreams of having long legs.

For us shorter brides, remember it may be tempting to pick towering heels to gain a little extra height, but you’ll only end up with sore feet and risk an embarrassing fall.

Slippery Shoes – Disaster Waiting to HappenDo you have nightmares of slipping as you walk down the aisle. Read these tips for comfortable wedding shoes that look marvelous and make you confident about your walk of a lifetime. #wedding #weddingceremony #weddingshoes #bridalshoes

Slippery shoes and wooden or highly polished floors are a bridal disaster waiting to happen.  As an officiant, I have seen  too many brides stumble as they walked down the aisle or entered.  All because of slippery shoes.  So, wh1t is a bride to do?

The quickest and most reliable way to have traction on your wedding shoes is  adding SHOE GRIPS.  They are an inexpensive option that I use on all my wedding officiant shoes. Never again will I suffer the embarrassment of stumbling as I enter the wedding ceremony,  I add them to the bottom of all my leather soles, then practice walking with the on as the do change the feel of the shoe when I walk.  They brought a entire new level of confidence for me in front of wedding guests.

Turn Any High Heels into Comfortable Wedding Shoes

I wish I could give credit for this awesome shoe tip on Pinterest.  I have seen it hundreds of times on various boards but have not found the original post.  If you know who it is, please email me so I can give proper credit.

  1. Insert a piece of lightweight padding between  your toes as shown.  Gauze or a cotton ball work well.
  2. 2. Counting from but not including your big toe, use medical tape and tape your next two toes together to eliminate the pain caused from wearing high heels.

I know it sounds crazy, but I tried it several times, and it really does work.   Scientists tell use it has something to do with a nerve that splits between these two toes which creates pain when you wear high heels.  I don’t know if the science is true, but the pain relief  is very real. Try it for daily wear too.

Comfortable Wedding Shoes Must Not Be Too Tight

If you find your bridal shoes are just a little snug, but you love them, try putting on a pair of heavy wool socks, then slip into your shoes.  (It will be snug, but worth the temporary discomfort.)  Now blow on your shoes with a hair dryer set on high for about two minutes.  The shoes will stretch just little and be much more comfortable.  Now this won’t increase shoes an entire size, but it will give you a little more wiggle room.  You can even do a few times for better results.

If All Else Fails – Relief for When You Did Not Wear Comfortable Wedding Shoes

Green Tea:

If your best efforts to avoid foot pain fail, and you are seeking relief for your aching tootsies, try soaking your feet in green tea.  It is an anti-inflammatory that reduces swelling and helps reduce blisters.  Pack a couple of green tea bags in your travel bag, so you are ready – just in case.  You’ll be amazed how quickly the pain disappears.

BONUS Tea Tip: 

Did you know that mint tea has properties that are awesome for calming bridal nerves?    It soothes indigestion, heartburn, gas, and stomach aches.  Take the time when you are wedding planning to sit back and sip a cup with friends and family. This chocolate mint oolong tea is one of my favorites.  I relax just thinking about it.

Just a Plastic Bag and Some Ice:

Another easy tip is to pack plastic bags in your travel bad – quart size zip bags work great.  When your feet are aching at the end of a long wedding day, fill bags with ice, put on a pair of comfy socks and rest your feet on the ice bags for a few minutes.  It is not nearly as comfortable as the warm tea bath but can give short term pain relief.

Conclusion:

So there you have it.   Part 2 of our tips about buying your perfect comfortable wedding shoes.  In Part 3 we’ll shore two simple action to avoid aching feet on your wedding day- before your buy your wedding shoes.

First we share a simple formula  from British Podiatrist Emma Supple that will allow you to calculate your perfect heel height for your wedding shoe comfort.  It takes only a couple of minutes and you will use the results for a lifetime.

We’ve already shared the number 1 way to avoid wedding foot pain caused by wearing heels in this article. (See that great Pinterest Tip on taping your toes.) In Part 3, we are sharing  6 things you need to know before your go shoe shopping.   Read our tips on how to know if your heels will hurt when you buy a pair of shoes.  You really can avoid the pain!

 

Thanks for sharing your wedding trends and ideas. #wedding #wedding planningThanks to all the brides who read our unique (and sometime quirky) ideas.

Do you have your own ideas you would like to share?  We would love to hear from you.  After all you are the real wedding expert. When we use your idea in a future article or book, we will give you credit for it.

Forward your ideas and comments either by posting them in the comments or sending me an email.

 

Other Articles You Will Enjoy:

Perfect Wedding Shoes – 5 Tips for Selecting Yours 

2019 Wedding Trends You Will Love 

Buying Your wedding Dress – What No One Told You

Follow Us On Pinterest

Our Pinterest Board are packed with all things wedding. An essential guide for every bride. Please read and follow. #bride #wedding #weddingplanning #weddinideas #weddinginspirationPlease follow our Pinterest Boards.  We love it when you save our pins, follow our boards and share with friends.  We have included lots of ideas, tips, hacks, DIY, ceremonies, receptions and vows, and plans to make your wedding Meaningful.  Magical.  Memorable.  Visit often. We update daily.

Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me if you have any questions.  You can reach me here.  I truly enjoy helping brides and learning from you.

I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.)

Hugs,   Rita

 

Disclaimer: Please note that some of the links in this  post are affiliate links. There is no additional cost to you, but we will earn a small commission if you purchase through those links. We appreciate your support.

Finding comfortable wedding shoes that also have the WOW factor can be a challenge. Read this article for 8 more tips about wedding shoes. Part 1 has lots of ideas too. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes #bridalshoes Comfortable Wedding Shoes are a Must. But how to do you comfort and style. Read this article of 8 more wedding shoe tips before your buy your shoes. #wedding #bride #weddingshoes #Weddingplanning Have the fairytale wedding shoes you have always dreamt about without aching feet. Read this before shop shopping. You can have it all. #bridalshoes #weddingplanning #wedding #bride Here is part 2 in our series about finding the perfect wedding shoes. Read the tips you need to know before your purchase your shoes. #bridalshoes #weddingplanning #bride One of a bride's biggest worries is how to have spectacular wedding shoes without aching feet. This article and the otehrs in te series have the answers you need to know before you buy your wedding shoes. #bride #bridalshoes #wedding

 

 

Perfect Wedding Shoes – 5 Tips for Selecting Yours – Part 1

Your perfect wedding shoes are one of your most important (and overlooked )wedding accessories. They not only complement your dress but are also the largest single reason for bride comfort or discomfort throughout the wedding day. Read on for tips of all you need to know about selecting your perfect wedding shoes.

Are you thinking about your wedding shoes and what to purchase? Read these tips before you buy for ideas and advice for the perfect wedding shoes. #wedding #bride

 

 Wedding Shoes Tip 1. –  Buy Your Dress FirstLooking for the perfect wedding dress without breaking the budget? Click here and look no further. Then on to your perfect wedding shoes. Gonna be fun. #weddingplanning #bridal

Even before the dress, most brides have an idea of the type of footwear they want to wear on their wedding day. It may be sexy stilettos, their favorite country boots, a pair of glittery sneakers or anything in between.

It is fantastic to have an idea of what you want but remember your wedding dress and shoes combine to create your complete wedding look. You want to blend them in beauty and practicality.  To get the look you want, buy your dress first.

Why buy your dress first?

Things You Need to Know Before Wedding Shoe Shopping

  • Consider if your shoes will be visible under your dress or hidden. If they are hidden, you can place more emphasis on the comfort than the beauty of the shoe.
  • Think about how well  your wedding dress style works with the type of shoe you are thinking about.
    Some shoe styles will accent the dress while others may detract from it.
  • If you have a shorter dress, or one that is short in the front, your shoes can accessorize your dress by adding color, glamour, and sparkle to your look. Or they can overpower the dress if you choose the wrong style.
  • Some dresses look incredible with boots, others with shoes; some vintage and others a modern sleek look. And the new trend of wearing sparkling sneakers is a statement all its own.

The important thing to consider is that when you pick your dress first, you can try shoes on with the dress and assess the total look. And it is much easier to match shoes to the perfect dress than find a dress to match perfect shoes.

What it all comes down to is that you really need to know what dress you will be wearing before you can pick the perfect shoes.

Wedding Shoes Tip 2.  – Your Everyday Shoes  What shoes do you wear on a daily basis? Consider your own comfort when selecting your wedding shoes. #wedding #bride

The first thought of most brides is that wedding shoes must be heels. Fortunately, this is no longer true.

As you think about your wedding shoes, consider what you are comfortable wearing and if you regularly wear high heels. If you are unaccustomed to higher heels, you may want to consider other shoe options. While your dream wedding shoe may be a five-inch stiletto, you are may not be prepared to gracefully walk in higher heels, and your overall wedding look will suffer. Better to have comfortable, sturdier shoes that are easy to walk in than be carried away with trendy shoes that do not reflect the real you. Your guests will not remember your wedding shoes, anyway, but the memory of you stumbling down the aisle will last a lifetime. Choose wisely.

Wedding Shoes Tip 3 –  Think About Your Venue and Climate

Consider your wedding venue and the climate – both ceremony and reception – before picking your wedding shoes.
Complete a walk-thorough of both venues thinking specifically about your shoes. Are there any difficult areas you will have to navigate? Remember you will be wearing a long dress, and carrying a bouquet, so your balance may not what you are accustomed to.

You must give special thought to your shoe selection if you are planning an outside wedding.

Will you be walking on rough terrain, through sand at a beach or on grassy surfaces where heels can easily sink and make walking difficult? Are there steps to traverse, a long distance to walk or other obstacles to your comfort?

Even if your wedding is inside, consider the areas where you will be walking between home, the ceremony, and the If you are looking for elegant wedding shoes without spending a fortune, then these are the shoes for you. Spectacular embellishments for your special day. #wedding #bride reception. If it is less than ideal for walking, consider having a pair of slip on shoes to wear during transportation and changing into your wedding shoes when you arrive. (Just check twice that your wedding shoes are packed.)

As far as the weather, you can’t plan for rain or sun, however, you can predict basic temperatures and chances of rain by looking at average weather for your location. Consider shoes wisely. For example, open toed shoes or strap sandals in the north in the winter months are just not practical. Not only will you get cold feet, but your guests will be wondering what you were thinking.

If you are a bride who absolutely loves heels and an outdoor wedding.  Do not despair.  These awesome heel savers from Solemates make it easy to walk on all types of surfaces without worry.  For our son’s wedding we bought multiple pairs and gave them to the bride, female attendants and the Mother of the Bride at the reception. (Of course I have them for my own shoes too.  Everyone was so relieved the next day when it had rained overnight and they were not affected by the soggy ground.  Check them out, you’ll love them.

Your goal is to look graceful when walking down the aisle and throughout your wedding day, and your shoes are the key to success.

Wedding Shoes Tip 4 – Add a Touch of Color

The wedding stereotype that brides must wear white is a thing of the past (thank goodness). Even if you are the traditional bride who wants a white or ivory dress, your shoes are the perfect opportunity to add a splash of unexpected color to your wedding look.

If you are staying with neutral tones, consider metallic in gold, silver, or rose gold that enhance the embellishments on your dress, veil, or wedding jewelry. You’ll add an elegant touch of glitter that will catch the eye of your guests.

Shoes are also the chance to add your “something blue” in an understated way. You can wear blue shoes, or just those Here is something blue and a comfortable wedding shoe too. You are going to love it. Other colors available too. #Bridal #weddingplanning

with blue heels or soles.

Many bridal shoes now come with blue soles, but you can add your own favorite shade of blue with careful application of blue nail polish and a couple of layers of overcoat. What an awesome way to create a designer look without paying designer prices.  (If you really want to personalize, write a message or your new name on the soles with indelible ink before applying the topcoat.  Just a hint of  wedding magic, my dear.

More Options to Consider

Other options include matching your shoes to your wedding colors or just going all out and wearing glittery ruby red shoes to create a fairytale look. The magic worked for Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz and can work for you too.

How about matching your shoes to the flowers in your bouquet, to your groom’s tie or vest, or a favorite color of a loved one who is no longer with you for your wedding day?

A bride at one of my weddings had a red and white themed wedding.  She  wore bright purple wedding shoes in honor of her departed Mom who loved purple. The couple added a note in the program to draw attention the bride’s shoes and their significance.  Joyful memories of her mom filled guests’ hearts when they saw the bride’s shoes.

Cowgirl Boots and Sneakers

We are also seeing brides wearing fancy new cowgirl boots in all colors (and some not so new, but that discussion is best left for another time) with their wedding dress. While not for everyone, if you are having a rustic or country wedding this may be just the option for you. Just be warned  if you don’t wear boots regularly. Not all cowgirl boots are comfortable until they are thoroughly broken in. (That’s the voice of pain and experience talking.)

Finally, we arrive at the wedding sneaker.  New.  Fun.  Trendy.  Comfortable.  What can I say?If you are looking for comfort and a special look in your wedding shoes, you'll love these personalized sneakers. Comfort and style. WOW #weddingshoes #bride

While not for the traditional bride, this option can add glitz, glam, and fun to your bridal look  in wedding white or your color of choice. Oh, and did we mention comfort? There are few wedding shoes that can beat sneakers when it comes to comfort. I have been pleasantly surprised by the beauty of some of the wedding sneakers I have seen.  I love these personalized wedding sneakers from Converse.  Even more importantly, I have never seen a bride rubbing her feet in agony when she is wearing sneaks.

Wedding Shoes Tip 5 – Select a Consistent Style

No matter what your look, vintage retro, modern, elegant, country or just plain you, make sure your shoes match the era of your wedding dress. Think about the materials, details, and shape of shoes that complement your dress. With the exception of funky sneakers, noting distracts more from your wedding look than a mismatch of styles. ( I except sneakers, because they are wedding statement all their own.) Otherwise, it is just plain confusing to your guests. They may not know what looks off to them, they just know what they are seeing does not work together. Envision vintage shoes with a mermaid dress and you will quickly see what we mean.

Conclusion

So, there you have it Part 1 of our series on Wedding Shoes. In Part 2 we will delve into when to buy, and share more about comfort with style.   There is also a bonus tip for wearing high heels and being comfortable that is going viral on Pinterest.  We included it in case you have not seen it.  You’re gonna love it for both wedding and every day wear.  I’m even wearing heels again.

In Part 3, we’ll share a formula you can use to calculate the perfect heel height for your personal comfort. (Don’t worry, it is easy, and it really works for me.)

There is also a section on how to know if your wedding shoes will hurt your heels.  You must read it before buying your shoes.

 

 

Thanks for sharing your wedding trends and ideas. #wedding #wedding planningThanks to all the brides who read our unique (and sometime quirky) ideas.

Do you have your own ideas you would like to share?  We would love to hear from you.  After all you are the real wedding expert. When we use your idea in a future article or book, we will give you credit for it.

Forward your ideas and comments either by posting them in the comments or sending me an email.

 

Other Articles You Will Enjoy:

2019 Wedding Trends You Will Love 

Buying Your Wedding Dress – What No One Told You

11 Tips for Last Minute Wedding Planning from Former Brides

Follow Us On Pinterest

Our Pinterest Board are packed with all things wedding. An essential guide for every bride. Please read and follow. #bride #wedding #weddingplanning #weddinideas #weddinginspirationPlease follow our Pinterest Boards.  We love it when you save our pins, follow our boards and share with friends.  We have included lots of ideas, tips, hacks, DIY, ceremonies, receptions and vows, and plans to make your wedding Meaningful.  Magical.  Memorable.  Visit often. We update daily.

Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me if you have any questions.  You can reach me here.  I truly enjoy helping brides and learning from you.

I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.)

Hugs,   Rita

 

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Reception Seating Part 1 – Assigned Seats or Not – What You Need to Know

Do I Really Need Assigned Reception Seating? 

 

In Reception Seating Part – Assigned Seats or Not – we will attempt  to answer the wedding question that brides have been struggling with for as long as there have been wedding receptions.  Admittedly, it is a lot of work to plan seating for your guests, but this is one area you really need to tackle.  (Don’t panic, we’re here to help.)

Are you dreading planning your reception seating? Read this to make it easy to handle and have happy guests. #weddingplanning #wedding

84% of wedding guests surveyed prefer assigned reception seating to open seating.  The results were particularly clear for guests aged over 50, where only 8% like unassigned seating.  Only 8 out of 100 guests wanted to select their own seats.  The message is clear:

Assigned Reception Seating = Happy Guests

Why Can’t People Select Their Own Seats? 

In theory, unassigned reception seats sounds like an awesome idea.  It could save you time in your planning, but when it comes to the wedding day you are likely to find:

  • There may be a stampede to get to the “good seats”. While it is rare, I have seen guests pull chairs from each Are you struggling with reception seating for your guests? Read this article to save wedding planning time and have happy guests. #weddingother and save seats for late-arriving  guests. It can get ugly.
  • The opposite can also be true. Guests may take all the back seats in the room,  leaving empty seats near the front empty if you have no-shows.
  • Guests not assigned to a table will take longer to select their seats. Some are likely to still be wandering around when you are ready to serve the food.
  • Arriving guests will see coats draped over chairs, chairs tipped to reserve, and other place-saving tricks.  Your carefully planned wedding vision may get swallowed in the jumble.

They Can, But They Won’t Be Happy

  • Couples and families who arrive last will probably not get to sit together. They’ll have to fit into the single seats that are open because of odd numbered parties who are already seated.
  • Consider that elderly guests may not be able to hear or see as well as other guests. And equally important, they will not want to sit too close to the music.
  • You are going to need more seats, and some tables will have empty seats when you have unassigned seating.  It is impossible for everyone to find a seat unless you split up couples or families when you have unassigned seats equal to your number of guests.  You generally plan at least 10-15% of extra seats to accommodate your guests with unassigned seating.
  • Uninvited guests or those who did not RSVP make take seats intended for your invited guests.

The simple fact is, that unless you assign seating, your guests’ wedding experience will not be memorable in the way you planned.  Before you panic, let’s look closer at what assigned reception seating can mean to you and your planning.

Assigning Reception Seating Could Mean Assigning Tables Only 

When most brides think of assigned reception seating for their guests, they think of a huge complicated chart with each person assigned to a specific seat.  They quickly develop a sense of fear, dread and an overall nightmare descending on their dream wedding.

In the USA it is becoming far more common to assign tables and allow guests to select their own seats.  In other countries, assigned seats may be more common, so this is your opportunity to be a trend setter.

Both are effective ways to seat guests.  Choose based on your personal preference, size of wedding, and the time you can dedicate to this planning task.

 

Pros of Seat Assignment Pros of Table Assignment
You can seat VIP guests in the most appropriate seats There is less planning work for you than assigning individual seats
If you are serving a seated meal with multiple menu selections, the wait staff will know where to deliver meals to specific guests. No need for place cards – but you can still lay the appropriate meal designation tags on each table and asks guests to place their selection in front of their place when they are seated.
Most popular with senior guests Guests get to select their dinner partners

 

Remember you can mix and match your choices.  If you know there are preferences in family seating, for example, you can create place cards for those tables, and assign other guests just by table. Mom still gets to face the bridal table, and you do not have to arrange individual seats for every guest.

Number of Guests Matters

As you would expect, the larger the wedding reception, the bigger the need for assigned seating.  Many brides avoid it because of the time involved in assigning seats.

But this really does not have to be a huge chore.  There are many free online apps you can use to assign seats.  You can also use the tried and true post it note method or an excel spread sheet saved to Google-docs so you can update anytime or anywhere.

If you have 50 or fewer guests, and can provide extra seats, people who know each other, or a very causal wedding where guests will not spend much time sitting at tables, you may be able to get away with unassigned seating.  It is up to you to decide if it is worth the risk of potentially unhappy guests.

Compromise – Assigned Tables and Guests Choose Their Own Seats   

The perfect compromise to keep guests happy is to have reception seating assigned to tables, and then allow them to choose their position at the table.  You’ll reduce your planning time as well as the number of seats you will need.  And guests only have to choose between 6 – 8 seats, so everyone is happy.

Remember you can mix and match your seating plans.  If you know there are preferences in family seating, for example, you can create place cards for those tables, and assign other guests just by table. Mom still gets to face the bridal table, and you do not have to arrange individual seating for every guest.

Seating Arrangements

Use these helpful tips when deciding which tables to assign to guests:

Reception Seating – Consider Guest Comfort

You may want to seat guests  with people they know for a comfortable feeling.  Of course, you could also seat guests with people they do not know so they will meet new friends.  (Surveys tell us that guests prefer option 1, but if you are adventurous, there is also the second option.)

Seat people together with similar ages or interests.

Be aware of prejudices and preferences of individuals.  This is not the time to make a social statement by seating your very liberal friend at the same table with your staunchly conservative Aunt Martha.

Reception Seating for Family

Seat families together, if they get along well.  If not, separate tables are the ideal way to allow everyone their own space to enjoy your wedding.  They are all here for you.  Your goal is a happy, stress free reception, not a family reunion.

Reception Seating for Divorced Parents

Don’t even think of seating divorced parents at the same table.  It may mean an additional table, but this is better than the discomfort (and possibly aggressive or upsetting behavior) you can avoid by seating them separately.

I know, you are thinking “Can’t they just be adults for one day?” But why take the chance or ruining your day?

It may take some extra planning on your part but do everything you can to make table placement equal for divorced parents.  I have seen so many brides dream reception shattered when a parent felt slighted.   Distance can be your friend.  Use it.

Reception Seating for Children

Seat young children with parents unless you have a separate supervised area set aside for them. The key to success is “supervised”, especially for younger children.  Otherwise parents will spend their time between tables or their  children seated on their laps.

Be sure you have enough booster seats and high chairs for children who will need them.  And include children in your table count.  No one is happy when you squeeze a high chair into their table.

You can seat older children at a table together or with their parents, depending on your preference and knowledge of the children.  We recommend supervision and planned activities just for them if seated separately,  even for older children.

If you have locations with limited viewing space place your children’s area there.  Children probably will not be interested in speeches anyway and other guests will be less distracted by their activities.

If you have many children attending, consider having a separate children’s lounge where children can eat and play without disturbing other guests.  Make sure you plan adequate supervision and a comfortable place for little  ones to lie down later in the evening.  Planning quiet time with a movie and sleeping bags is a fantastic way to sooth tired and cranky kids while giving parents a much appreciated break.

Reception Seating and Creating Balance

Try to create balanced tables, with even numbers of males and females. If you are also assigning seats, it is traditional to alternate male-female-male-female guests.

Be aware of former relationships and do not seat exes together, unless you know them very well and are confident, they will be okay with it.  (We don’t believe it is worth the risk, but you know your guests.)

Speeches and Toasts

If you are having speeches or announcements, try to seat the speakers where they can easily move to the front of the room when it is time for their presentation.

Reception Seating for Special Guests

If you have elderly or disabled guests, pregnant ladies, or guests with small children, they will appreciate it when you seat them near bathroom facilities.

Seat guests with mobility issues close to the door and out of heavy traffic areas.  They will appreciate it.

If you are planning to move tables for a dance floor, avoid seating these guests at those tables.

Older guests like grandparents may have poor hearing and eyesight. Seat them where they can see and hear speeches.  Seat them away from any loud music.  They will thank you for it.

Reception Seating for Singles

Don’t wait until the end of your planning to place single guests at a table.  You’ll end up with them feeling like the last kid picked in the lunch room when they are all bunched together at a single table.  Be sure to fit them in as you distribute your guests among tables.  If it means odd seating at a table, that is a small price to pay to keep guests happy.

If you do need to have odd numbers at a table, go for one less instead of crowding in one more at the table.  Overcrowded guests are never comfortable and will remember how they felt as an add-on.

Conclusion

So,  there you have it.  The basics of assigned and unassigned reception seating made easy for you.  If you still decide to go for unassigned seating, that is your choice and you know your guests better than anyone else.  But with a little time and attention to detail, you can create a wedding experience your guests will enjoy from the moment they walk through the door.

This article is the first in an series to assist you, the bride, in your reception seating challenges.  Other articles will include table sizes and number of guests, room capacity and more.  If you would like to receive future articles automatically,  subscribe in the comments area or send me an email at rita@ceremoniestolove.com

 

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Wedding Expense – 5 Unexpected Expenses You Are Not Prepared For

Are you concerned that you have overlooked a wedding expense in your planning?

Read this to learn about 5 unexpected wedding expenses to prepare you for your wedding day. #wedding #weddingbudget

There are so many moving parts to planning a wedding that it is easy to overlook a wedding expense or two.  After all you are not an event planner. This is likely the largest event you have ever planned. And you are charging yourself with researching, arranging, and tracking all those tiny details while bombarded with everyone else’s opinions of your plans.  No wonder you forget or miss some expenses!  So, we have created this list of 5  unexpected wedding expenses.  You got this!

 Wedding Expense 1: Pre-wedding events

Most brides carefully budget for their wedding dress, and grooms rent a tuxedo or other wedding attire.  But what about all the other events?  Don’t forget the wedding expense of the clothing you will wear to other events you’ll be attending:

  • Engagement party
  • Bachelor or bachelorette party
  • Bridal Shower(s)
  • Rehearsal Dinner
  • Reception Dress
  • Day after-brunch
  • Honeymoon clothing
  • Going away outfit if you are changing before you leave your reception
  • Lingerie for your wedding night.

Now, you are not required to wear something new for each of these, but if that is what you are planning, be sure to include the costs in your wedding  expenses.  And don’t forget to include the costs of accessories like shoes and jewelry as well as transportation.

Our tip is to shop early and catch the sales.  Most of the larger retailers have regular sales on party wear and you may even find end of season sales for your honeymoon.

To save and still have a fresh look at each event, consider borrowing an outfit from a like-sized friend.  No will ever notice, and you’ll only wear it for a few hours.

Include a line in your wedding budget, so you can track these wedding expenses and avoid overspending.

Wedding Expense 2 : Alterations, Undergarments and Accessories

You budgeted for your  wedding dress.   Hopefully you have accounted for the cost of alterations you may need to your dress.

Nearly all wedding gowns need alterations at least once and may require a second alteration if you lose weight or misjudged your final size.  You should plan at least a couple of hundred dollars for each time you have alterations, and more if your gown has several layers or is highly embellished.  The more handwork on the gown, the more expensive the alterations.

So, your dress is perfect, but did you remember:

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  • Veil or headpiece
  • Shoes
  • A second pair of dancing shoes for the reception
  • Bra, underwear and shape wear
  • Pantyhose (and be sure to have an extra pair)
  • Jewelry – earrings, necklace and bracelet.

Again, you can avoid overlooking these wedding expenses by including a line for them in your wedding budget and deciding in advance how much you will spend for each.

Wedding Expense 3: Hair and Makeup Trials

If you are having your hair and makeup done professionally, you will need to have at least one trial run.  And, you may need more than one, depending on if the trial meets with your approval. Plan on each trial costing about 75% of the cost of your final wedding makeup.  Be sure to ask what the charge will be for a redo if you do not like the first  trial look.

And don’t forget, you will need small samples of the makeup for wedding day touch-ups. Ask if these are included or are provided at an additional cost.  Or ask for colors and purchase your own makeup if it is not included in the price.

If you are planning spray tanning session for the wedding you are going to want a test run a few weeks or months in advance, especially if you have not used the salon before.  Be sure to include the cost of all sessions in your budget.

Of course, you may also have dozens of small things in mind to make you and your groom look perfect on your wedding day,  Brides are seeking teeth whitening, mani-pedis and other beauty services, but often forget to include them in their wedding budget. Don’t forget manicures for the groom.  The photographer will be focusing on the groom’s hands as much as yours on the wedding day.

Wedding Expense 4: Reception Overtime Costs

I have attended some wedding receptions, where guests left early.  But in far more, the couple planned what their guests liked, and the party was in full swing when the appointed end time arrived.

Do you stop the party or should it continue?  Be prepared for this, by finding out in advance, how much it will cost if your party is going too well to cut it off at the end time. What will it cost to continue to party for another hour or two? Consider venue costs, servers, band or DJ, and of course the bar and munchies.  Have you planned a pick-up time for rental items that will need to be adjusted if you extend your party?

If you want to extend your reception, make sure you have allocated money in your budget to cover overtime charges – and to tip staff extra for staying  beyond the time specified in your contract.  Know the costs, decide in advance what you will do,  and stick with what you and your partner agreed on.  (Hint:  It is going to be expensive but may be worth it.)

Wedding Expense 5: Breakfast and Lunch for the Wedding Party

Likely, you and your wedding party will be spending the entire day getting ready for the wedding.  Be sure to build Read about aan unexpected expense including breakfast for your bridal party and more. #weddingbudget #weddingy. #weddingplanning #wedding time into your hectic schedule for a meal or two.

If you have early morning hair and makeup appointments, you may need breakfast.  Carry out from a local restaurant or a box of donuts can fill the bill, just include some protein to avoid sugar spikes.  Protein bars are an easy option. Lunch may be a little heartier, but still plan delivery or carry out in advance so everyone can relax before the wedding.

While it is customary to have some bubbly or other celebratory drinks, you will want to limit them before the wedding, so everyone will be in their best form for the walk down the aisle.

Just be sure to eat throughout the day and, for the bride, drink lots of water for a glowing radiant look.

So, in advance, you will need to

  • Plan the food and drinks you need. Think casual and fun, not formal
  • Include non-alcoholic drinks and water
  • Place the order a few days before the wedding
  • Arrange for delivery or pickup by someone not in the wedding party
  • Have cash on hand for the meal and tip
  • Don’t forget ice and snacks

Plan for the Totally Unpredictable Wedding ExpenseRead and be prepared for an unexpected wedding expense. There are always some to deal with. #weddingplanning #bride

Your wedding is a large event, with lots of people, and anything can happen.  Be sure to have a little extra cash on hand for the unexpected on the wedding day.  If someone forgets their shoes, a quick trip to Walmart is better than a two-hour ride home to retrieve them.

Be prepared if your final bill from vendors is slightly higher than you expected. Perhaps you have additional guests attend who did not RSVP.  Request an explanation for the additional charge and if it is legitimate, you will have to pay the entire amount.   If there is reasonable explanation, refer back to your contract as you should not pay more than the agreed upon contract unless there were additional agreed upon services provided.

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MOH Duties: The Maid of Honor at the Ceremony – Part 4 in Series

The time for the wedding has finally arrived. All your work and support in planning, calming nerves, and offering the shoulder to lean on are memories. And it has all been leading up to the life changing ceremony you are about to be part of. So now what are the MOH Duties for the Ceremony?  Read on and be comfortable in your role.  Your bride is counting on you!Read about the MOH duties at the ceremony. The Maid of Honor role is key to a smooth ceremony. #wedding #bride

MOH Duties: Preparing to Enter the Ceremony 

You are responsible for ensuring that everyone is assembled and in the right position, ready for the bride’s entrance to her ceremony.   A wedding day coordinator, if available, will take the lead.  Step in with support where needed.

Remember the coordinator is just one person, does not know the bride like you do, and has probably not met most of the wedding party except at the rehearsal.  You are the perfect person to get the job done. If there is no coordinator, the entire job will surely fall to you.

One of the most challenging MOH duties is often working with the little people  in the wedding party.  You may need to calm excited flower girls, corral rambunctious ring bearers or locate a misplaced corsage. It is impossible to predict what is in-store for you.  Be prepared with a few non-messy  bribes, (Oh, I guess I should say treats) and distractions if  you will be waiting before the ceremony.

Just keep one thought in mind. It is all about the bride! And your job is to fill the next hour of her life with the wedding ceremony memories of a lifetime.  You get to handle the challenges, chaos, and distracts that may arise. (oh, joy!)

To put it simply, the MOH duties are to help keep everyone calm and on schedule at the ceremony venue.

Keep your eye on the clock. Try to make sure that everyone is where they need to be on time.  If you need a reminder, set a “count-down” ten minutes in advance on your cell phone.

Keep the Bride Calm

When the bride seems a bit stressed while waiting for the ceremony to begin, it’s one of your duties to keep the mood light.

Prepare with a funny story, some light music, or whatever keeps the bride happy and laughing. Reminiscing about fun times with the groom are sure to be a pleasant distraction. Prepare in advance for what you can do to lighten the mood when bridal nerves are stretched thin.

Just Keep Fluffing

Take one last look just before the bride is ready to walk down the aisle. Is there any last-minute help she needs with fluffing her dress, straightening her train, rearranging her veil, or fixing makeup?  Don’t ask, just fix it.

Take a final look, making full circle around the bride. Make a tiny adjustment (even it if is not needed), put on your biggest smile and tell her she looks perfectly gorgeous. (Perfect is the key work.  Be sure to use it.)

This is one of the best things you can do to calm nerves and instill confidence in the bride for the walk of her life.

MOH Duties: The Ceremony

Walk Down the Aisle – A Gorgeous Maid of Honor

Your  big moment in the spotlight is when you walk down the aisle. The Maid of Honor generally enters immediately following the other bridesmaids.

Some weddings have the bridesmaids escorted by the groomsmen, in which case the Best Man will escort you.Read this to know the MOH Duties at the Ceremony. You will do a great job. #bride #wedding

The  ring bearer, flower girl and the bride will follow.  Again, the order may vary.  Some brides choose to have their Maid of Honor immediately precede them into the ceremony, especially if  there are young children who may need assistance or guidance. When you are between the children and the bride, you are the one who gets the fun job of child control, so the bride can concentrate on her walk to her groom.

Be sure to smile, walk slowly, and allow adequate space between you and the bridesmaid preceding you. This will ensure that your photographer can get awesome pictures of everyone.

Arrange the Bride’s Dress and Veil

When the bride joins the groom, the Maid of Honor is responsible for making sure that the bride’s dress and veil look fabulous. Your officiant will usually pause for a few seconds while you make any needed adjustments before the ceremony begins.

If the bride and groom move during the ceremony itself, possibly for a unity ceremony or even when exchanging rings, you are also in charge of having the bride’s dress and veil picture-ready when the couple returns to their original position.

Finally, be ready to make adjustments when the couple turns to be announced as husband and wife and exit the ceremony.

Keep Things for the Bride

Wrap a few tissues around the stem of your bouquet in case the bride, bridesmaids or even the groom shed a few happy tears.  You may also have her lipstick or other beauty items and even a cell phone , though these can be left outside.

Hold the Bride’s Bouquet

If the bride’s bouquet is large or heavy, or you know you will be spending time arranging the gown or veil, you may pass your bouquet to the bridesmaid beside you to hold. Just remember, the bride’s bouquet always remains close to her.

Just before the couple is announced as husband and wife, pass the Maid of Honor passes the bride’s bouquet to her, then makes sure the bride’s dress and veil look perfect.

Carry the Groom’s Ring

Traditionally, the Best Man holds both the bride and groom’s wedding ring.  However, many of today’s brides are having their Maid of Honor carry the groom’s ring on their behalf until the exchange of rings.

If you are asked to carry the groom’s ring,  have this cute rose box nestled in your bouquet.  You can also wear the ring on your your thumb.  Either way will work, as long as the ring is secure and you can easily hand it tot he officiant when the time arrives.

Be Prepared for Happy Tears

Wrap a few tissues around the stem of your bouquet in case the bride or groom shed a few happy tears. (And keep a few for yourself.)

MOH Duties: The Recessional

As you prepare to leave the ceremony venue, the Maid of Honor and the Best Man take their positions behind the newly married couple for the recessional.  You will lead the rest of the wedding party as they exit the venue.  Be sure to check with the bride in advance for the tone of the walk she wants to see.  It can be very formal, or a wild and crazy dance.  Just make sure everyone in the bridal party knows the plan. If the bride wants a dance routine, then you can are also responsible for bridal party practice if needed.

Be sure to allow adequate space after the couple exits before you start down the aisle.  The general rule is  that you will begin to exit only after the couple have reached the back of the venue.

MOH Duties: Before the Reception

Sign the Marriage License as a Witness

Your final and most important ceremony duty as Maid of Honor is witnessing the signing of the marriage license.

Many jurisdictions require the officiant and the couple to sign the marriage license, with the Maid of Honor and Best Man as witnesses.  Some require only the officiant to sign.  (Instructions accompany the license when issued. Be sure to check in advance to know what is required in your area.)

The local jurisdiction will record the marriage and make it legal only when it is properly witnessed.

Before the wedding day, make sure there is a photogenic place for the license signing.  Determine who the bride and groom want present and coordinate with them. Make sure everyone is in place to complete this formality quickly, so you can be off to the photos and reception.

Other Articles in Our Maid of Honor Series:

Maid of Honor – What You  Need to Know to Be Awesome (Part 1)

Maid of Honor – During the Wedding Planning (Part 2)

Maid of Honor Duties – Day of the Wedding (Part 3 )

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A Wedding Trend You Will Love – 2019 Wedding Trends

Every year brides search for the newest wedding trend that will make their wedding both unique and up to date.  For 2019 wedding trends, look for couples to update popular concepts while bringing their own new ideas to their wedding celebration.  Brides want guest experiences to produce a lifetime of memories.

Read this for new and fresh wedding ideas for 2019. Brides love the new trends. #wedding #wedding planning

Here we give you a peek  at 2019 Wedding Trends you will be sure to love.

Wedding Trend # 1 – Tiaras2019 Wedding Trends. Brides want to look like royalty. #bride #wedding

With the recent royal weddings, tiaras are again becoming the head-wear of choice for many brides.   Brides are choosing to live their fairy tale weddings by wearing a tiara either coupled with a veil or alone.  It is your day to be the princess or queen you dreamed about.

 

Wedding Trend # 2 – Unplugged Ceremonies

More and more couples are looking for the peace and tranquility of an unplugged ceremony. Guests can expect to see more signs requesting them to turn off cell phones and enjoy the wedding ceremony.  Brides are even asking for phones to be left at the door, though that may be extreme.2019 Wedding Trends include an umplugged wedding. You're gonna love the sign. #weddingplanning #wedding

But, when it comes to the reception, guests will be sharing their experiences real time on their phones and social media.  If you want to be the first to share  your wedding pictures, make sure you ask guests not to post until later or have someone post for early in the reception.

Take advantage of all those casual photos your friends have snapped by creating a wedding hashtag and online location where guests can post the pictures for you to add to your wedding memories.

Be sure to post pictures on your wedding website and remind guests about the pictures when you send Thank You notes.

Bonus Tip:

Here is an article about you – The Bride – being unplugged on your wedding day.  Read and enjoy your wedding day without interruption.

Wedding Trend # 3 – Technology

Technology will be front and center for 2019 weddings.

Drones

Expect to see more drones hovering and capturing wedding memories. They are versatile in capturing never-seen perspectives of your wedding ceremony and reception.  Your wedding video goes to new heights (pun intended).

Just be sure to follow the regulations in your area and have an experienced drone operator.  It really is not as easy as it looks on TV.  You’ll want to make sure you get quality photos and maintain safety for your guests.

Projection Mapping

Video or projection mapping is going to take the wedding world by storm.  High resolution imagery and videos are projected onto venue walls and ceiling to create a unique environment.  This article from Martha Stewart weddings provides an introduction to wedding projection mapping.  It may continue to be a bit pricey for the average bride, but there are also videos and how-to’s online if you have technical skills and want to WOW your wedding guests with DIY.

Wedding Trend # 4 – Your Wedding Flowers 

 Dahlias are making a big hit for wedding flowers.  They and their related cousins sunflower, daisy, chrysanthemum, 2019 Wedding Trends. Wedding flowers are in all new shapes, sizes and colors for 2019. Read and see how easy it will be to create your perfect wedding with the new floral wedding trend. #weddingflowers #weddingplanningand zinnia come in a wide variety of colors and looks.  They are durable and cost-effective flowers for centerpieces, arches and bouquets.  Ask you florist to show you options or if you are going DIY, check out Blooms in a Box  for great ideas and your a Free Floral Guide.

 

Ranunculus flowers look almost too flawless to be real.  (I never heard of them either, so see the picture below.  Aren’t they gorgeous?)  The blossoms display layer upon layer of silky petals in bright, paint box colors. These hardy yet exquisite rose-like flowers are fast becoming a staple in wedding bouquets and décor because of their romantic look and ability to add a touch of whimsy to your wedding.

2019 Wedding Trends. Looking for a gorgeous wedding flowers? Here they are. The wedding trend is beauty and variety. Enjoy. #weddingplanning #weddingflowers

Wedding Trend # 5 – Sunday Weddings

Sunday weddings are going to be another change we’ll see in 2019.  Venues and vendors are much less expensive on this off-day, so brides get much more wedding for the same dollars spent.

Brides are also opting to make their weddings the culmination of a wedding weekend, so guests have ample travel time before the wedding.  Brides can set the mood for the wedding in advance with welcome parties instead of after-parties for out of town guests and planning a Sunday wedding including a brunch or early afternoon wedding.

A hidden benefit for the out-of-town bridal party is that they get to participate in last minute wedding activities  that they might otherwise miss. And a Saturday morning rehearsal will find people ready to participate.  Follow with a rehearsal breakfast and relaxed time with your bridal party.

Your guests will love the added time they have with you and you will save money (or have a larger wedding for the same money).

 

Wedding Trend # 6. A More Fluid Wedding Look

For 2019, brides are expanding their wedding vision by mixing different shades of the same color into their own color 2019 Wedding Trends. Copper is the new wedding trend metal for 2019. Add a lot or just an accent for a perfect wedding look. #wedding #weddingreceptionpalette.  They are incorporating lots of contrast, colors that pop, metallics – especially copper, and even the occasional black coupled with traditional gold and silver.

We will be seeing increased customized creativity in wedding with the use of an expanded color palette and new textures.

What does this mean to you?  You have an unlimited palette of colors, textures and dimensions to create your dream wedding.  Guests will love the added visual interest that makes your wedding uniquely yours.

Wedding Trend # 7 –  New Pops of  Color

 Deeper Colors

Pale pinks and blush tones, the go-to wedding colors for many brides, will be out for 2019 weddings  Expect to see brighter and deeper colors.  The bride’s tastes will be more of an influence than the season of the year for color  choices.

The color of choice will be luscious purples in multiple shades from violet to periwinkle to deep royal purple.

Designers note that purple is fabulously versatile.  It can be light and airy or bold and dramatic.  When combined with multiple fabrics from plush velvet to soft organza and charmeuse, purples create a unique and visually pleasing wedding look in all seasons and climates.

You’ll see purple in wedding attire, but also look for it in lighting options, floral designs and accents.  We may even be seeing purple potatoes on the wedding menu!

Wedding Trend #8 Location-themed favors

Couples are looking to make their wedding favors something that guests will enjoy and remember.  Edibles are still the number one choice.

The new focus in favors will be personalized to the couple – where they are from, are living, or their own favorite foods. Some local favorites for my area include a nod to Maryland crabs with crab shaped chocolates or our fabulous Maryland wines. 2019 Wedding Trends include edible party favors. You'll love these burlap bags in multiple sizes. We stuffed ours with caramel corn. Guests loved them. #wedding #weddingplanning

My personal favorite is a local luscious caramel popcorn.  We bought the big tubs and packaged them in small bags for favors at my niece’s wedding.   Since it was a county wedding, we  selected these cute burlap bags for packaging to carry out the theme.  We used the 4″by 6″ size but other sizes are available too.  Then we added small bow in the bridal colors.  You should have seen the smiles on guests’ faces and their delight at having a treat they loved.

Wedding Trend #9 – Arches

Wedding arches are no longer just for outdoor and rustic weddings.  They have long been known as symbolic gates toAre you looking to add beauty to your wedding? Wedding arches are the new trend for ceremonies and picture backdrops. #weddingplanning #wedding the new life the couple is entering together.  They symbolize family happiness, change and a prosperous future.

Decorate your wedding arch with an array of materials to fit your theme and style.  In addition to traditional flowers (alstroemerias, roses, orchids, freesias and carnations are among the flowers that will live the longest so are ideal choices for your wedding arch.) add other items that are unique to you.  One wedding where I officiated was accented with the shells from Maryland steams crabs, with a delicious crab dip as an appetzer. You’ll have a hard time beating Maryland crabs, but think about your local favorites to include in your wedding.

Add lots of baby’s breath and greenery as inexpensive yet elegant filler materials.

Consider balloons, branches, feathers, and garlands for a unique look.  Drape with fabric, huge paper flowers or whatever makes you smile. I particularly love this arch because it come pre-lit.  And it is budget friendly too.

Conclusion:

So there you have it.  A variety of ideas to make your 2019 wedding uniquely yours.  Enjoy and let me know your ideas too.

 

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Your Children in Your Wedding – Creating Lifelong Memories

In the weddings I perform, approximately half the couples have children from prior marriages, relationships or their own children together.  Why not include your children in your wedding day?  It is a wonderful way to start your new life together as a family.

Have you been looking for unique ways to include your children in your wedding? Read more for ideas you and your children will love. #wedding #weddingplanning

In the past, including children was limited to having them serve as flower girls, ring bearers, or junior attendants.  But with the advent of the non-traditional wedding, your options for including your children in your wedding are unlimited.  Read on for ideas you will love.

Include Your Children in Your Wedding Day Planning

Older children can participate in DIY crafts, cake tasting, stamping envelopes and other chores you will be performing in advance of the wedding.

At one wedding where I officiated, the groom’s children created the guests’ place cards.  They painstakingly wrote the names in crayon in varying shades of the wedding colors on the place cards.  Grandparents and other special people had the added treat of a small picture drawn on their cards.  The bride and groom took pictures of each card and preserved it for their wedding book.  The children were very proud of their contribution to the wedding and enjoyed the praise showered on them by wedding guests.

(Tip: Be sure to purchase extra cards.  They are inexpensive and allow children to start again, when they “mess up.”)

I asked the bride, Sara, about this unique idea and she said:

“I knew we were going to spend a lot of time creating our wedding.  Brian and I wanted to make sure his (soon to be our) children felt included, and that there would be things they could do when they were staying with us during our planning.  This seemed to be the perfect solution and turned out to be the hit of our wedding.    We allowed the kids to pick the place cards they liked, and since they chose a tented style, we did not have to spend money on holders.  Jason and Beth were so proud when guests asked them to sign their place cards to keep as a wedding memory.”

Include Your Children in Your Wedding Vows

Now, I am not talking about the children making vows.   I understand that some couples do this, but most children are not in the position to make or keep vows of their own.  Children who make vows often feel responsible for any issues that arise in the marriage.  Make vows to each other and to the children but resist the temptation to have them vow to you or your new spouse.

But be sure to mention the children by name in your vows and your commitment to love them and treat them as your own.

If you prefer not to include children in the vows, ask the officiant to mention the children’s names several times in the context of the ceremony and the new family you are creating.

Family Ceremony For Including Your Children in Your Wedding

Including a small ceremony within your wedding to honor the beginning of a new family can be an exciting way to include children and recognize the new family you are creating.

Are you including your children in your wedding? Read for unique ideas about how you can create lifetime memories. #wedding #weddingceremony You can use a traditional unity ceremony, such as the unity candle or sand ceremony expanded  to include the children.  For the sand ceremony, have each child select his/her personal color of sand so their individuality is also represented.  Be prepared for some interesting color combinations, knowing the completed family work will truly represent everyone as individual.

Think outside of the box for things you can do as a family, for a unity ceremony for your family.  Sparklers for a 4th of July , wedding, flowers placed in a vase during the ceremony – each of unique to the child’s personality, and Easter eggs placed in a family basket are just a few ideas that spring to mind.

You can think seasonally to compliment your wedding or about activities that are important to your family and create a simple ceremony with items that reflect that activity.  If you need help email me, and I will be happy to help.

Christmas Wedding

Why not create new holiday tradtion when you inlcude your children in your wedding? Read to learn how you can inlcude wedding memories in every holiday. #wedding #childreninwedding

I created one of my favorite family unity ceremony for a couple who were including six children in their new life together.  (2 of the bride’s, 3 of the  groom’s and one child together.)  The wedding was just before Thanksgiving and the children were all excited about the wedding and Christmas.  (I am not really sure which one was the priority.)

In advance, the children shopped with grandparents for a Christmas ornament that was special to them.  On the wedding day, we set up a small tree, decorated  it with simple white lights and small ornaments in the wedding colors.  When the time came in the ceremony, the children were invited to come forward and place their ornaments on the tree. The parents were so emotional as each child shared his/her ornament with them for the first time.

We had worked in advance to create a few words about each ornament and why it was selected,  which I shared while each child placed his/her  ornament on the tree.  Then the bride and groom came forward and placed their ornaments as well as a solitary star on the top of the tree that represented the entire family.   We created a tradition for this new family to share every year at Christmas time.

Family Medallion

Include a family medallion ceremony where children receive a medallion to commemorate the wedding day.

Invite the children to come forward and gather round as you take your vows, then present each one with their own medallion representing the family you are forming today.

 

Bouquet Holder – A Unique Way to  Include Your Children in Your Wedding

Are you looking for a unique way to include your children in your wedding? Read more for a brand new position we created just for Jennifer. Lots of smiles and hugs resulted. #weddingplanning #ceremony

When Marcie’s step-daughter Jennifer wanted to be more than a flower girl, we created a position for her in the wedding ceremony.  Jennifer stood beside her new stepmother and held Marcie’s bouquet during the ceremony.  It was a beautiful show of unity between this new relationship.  Jeff (the groom) beamed as his new wife and daughter stood side by side.

At the reception, instead of throwing the bouquet, Marcie invited Jennifer to the center of the venue.  She presented the stunned Jennifer with the bouquet as her wedding keepsake.  Marcie even added an inexpensive heart locket with pictures of  the two of them to the bouquet before giving it to Jennifer.   There was not a dry eye in the place, especially from Jeff as he watched his new bride and his daughter exchanging smiles and hugs.

 

Your Children in Your Wedding  – Passing the Rings

For older children, have them present the rings to the bride/groom.  In ceremonies I create, I ask the bride’s children to present her ring to the groom, and vice versa.  This is a subtle way of the children endorsing the marriage and welcoming his/her new step parent into the family.  If there is only one child, the child can present rings to both the bride and groom.    I particularly like these ring boxes.

How do you include your children in your wedding when they are not really kids any more? Read this for ideas and tips about a real family wedding. #weddingplanning #weddingideas Having trouble figuring out how to include your children in your wedding when they are adults? Read this article for ideas and advice to make everyone happy. #weddingday #bride

 

Two Different Looks for You to Choose From.  Both are fabulous.

 

 

 

 

Readers – An Awesome Way to Include Your Children in Your Wedding:

I have seen many children of all ages serve as readers for their parents’ wedding. The keys to successfully including this in the wedding are to be sure:Are you looking for ways to inlcude your children in your wedding, but not overwhelm them? Read this unique idea for creating a wedding memory that guests will be talking about for years. #childrenin wedding #weddingideas

  1. The child is old enough and comfortable reading in front of a group of people
  2. Selecting a reading that is age appropriate to the child
    1. We created a reading for Tanika from her favorite Dr. Suess Book “Oh the Places You’ll Go” for her parents wedding.  We modified the words to  talk specifically about her parents, and changed the names in the book to the couple.  It was easy to do and created a unique lifetime memory for everyone involved. You could easily do this with any childhood book.
  3. Lots of practice – including some in front of people if possible.
  4. Being prepared on your wedding day, when the child chooses not to read. (Ask your officiant to be ready to step in and continue the reading on the child’s behalf.)

 

Kisses All Around

After the vows, invite the children to the front.  Share hugs and kisses all around.  Then,  when the couple is pronounced, simply ask the officiant to add “and family”.   Something like: “Family and friends, I present to you for the first time – Mr.  and Mrs. Michael and Ivy Clammer and their children, Clay, Simon and Danielle”.

After the couple recesses, the children stand for a few seconds and then follow their parents down the aisle to exit. (The Maid of Honor can tell them when to go.  If they immediately follow the couple, priceless picture opportunities can be lost.)

Conclusion

Whatever you do, be sure to be patient with children. They may get suddenly shy, or uncomfortable with what’s going on.  This is a big day in their lives too.  In the end, let them do as much as they are happy doing and just let the rest go.

 

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Thanks to all the brides who allow me to try my unique (and sometime quirky) ideas.  I appreciate your patience and support as we work to create a unique wedding for you.

If you have a tip you would like to share, we’d love to hear from you.  It can be anything wedding related that will help other brides. After all, you are the expert.

 

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If you have been looking for unusual ways to include your children in your wedding, look no further. Read this for ideas you and your children will love.

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11 Wedding Advice Ideas from Past Brides – You’ll Be Glad You Know

We asked past brides to share their wedding advice for new brides.   Read on for the top ideas before you plan your wedding.Want to avoid mistakes past brides made? Read this to learn advice from former brides. #weddingplanning #bride

Wedding Advice #1 from Kayla E. Your Dream Wedding Within Your BudgetIs budget part of your wedding planning? Read this from a former bride for wedding advice that will help. #weddingbudget #weddingideas

 “We started planning our wedding without a budget and things quickly got out of control.  I almost fainted when I added up the full costs of the wedding items I thought needed.  Thank goodness I added them up before I actually started buying.

So, we stepped back and set a realistic budget and worked within it.  And the strange thing is we never missed those insignificant details that the wedding industry was trying to sell as necessities for our “perfect wedding”.”

Lesson Learned:

Set up your budget.  First, decide what parts of the wedding day are most important to you.  Spend money there.  And cut spending in areas that are not as important to you.  You’ll have your dream wedding, and no one will miss what is not there.

Wedding Advice #2 from Nikita K.: Compromise With Your Partner

Compromising on your dream wedding is difficult.  You may have been dreaming about this day since you were very small.  My FH Don wanted to get married with just the two of us and the officiant present while I always wanted a huge wedding with all my friends and family. After a lot of discussion (okay, and some arguing) we compromised on a wedding with close friends and family, about 70 people.  Turns out it was the perfect wedding  size for both of us.

Lesson Learned:

It’s your partner’s wedding too.  Compromising is the best way to start a new marriage.

Wedding Advice #3 from Emma B.: Find Your Comfort Point

“It is your wedding. So only do what you are comfortable with doing.Are you comfortable with the ideas you have seen in your wedding planning? Read this wedding advice from former brides to have the wedding you will remember for a lifetime. #weddingceremony #weddingreception

Forget the pre and post wedding events that are not really for you.  We did not have an engagement party or a bachelorette party.  I did not want them, so I asked that we not have them.

We also skipped the after-wedding brunch since we didn’t have out of town guests.  Instead we ordered pizza to enjoy while we spent the day opening wedding gifts with our immediate family on the day after our wedding.  It felt wonderful to relax and relive the day in our comfy clothes with our families.”

Lesson Learned:

Plan your wedding events around what you want, not what others expect.

Wedding Advice #4 from Jess K.: An Imperfect Wedding

 “If I could have one wish, it would be that someone had told me my wedding was not going to be perfect, and that the little slip-ups did not matter.  I spent too much time on my wedding day stressing about the unimportant things.  Sadly, I don’t remember much about the best parts of my wedding. I was too focused on perfect and what could go wrong.”Are you worried that you wedding day will not be perfect? Read this wedding advice from a former bride to put everything into perspective so you will enjoy your wedding day. #weddingday #perfectwedding

Lesson Learned:

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited about what could go right.

Let it go.  By the time your wedding day arrives there is little you can do to change anything.  Relax and enjoy the day.

Wedding Advice #5 from Amber H.:  Not What It “Should Be”

“There is no standard for what your wedding “should be” anymore.  Hurray! It is whatever you want it to be.  Now, decide what you want and go for it.

Aunt Ella was loud and persistent in her opinion that we have a formal, traditional, church wedding.  We wanted a more informal civil ceremony.

It just took some courage for us to tell her what we wanted and address her objections.

We told her gently several times that we were not interested in formal church wedding, and finally explained the subject was closed.  We also told her it was important to both of us to have her as part of our special day.  While she may not have agreed, she did stop pushing the issue.”

Lesson  Learned:

There are many options for weddings today.  The best part of today’s weddings is that you can pick and choose what works for you.  If you do not care about something, don’t spend money on it.  Traditions are not rules.

Wedding Advice #6 from Laura A.: Decide When You Are Calm

Don’t ever make a major wedding decision when you are tired, frustrated, or stressed. Don’t make decisions when you are overly happy either.Is you wedding planning not what you expected? Read this wedding advice from a former bride. on the best time to make wedding decisions. #weddingtips #dreamwedding

My sister-in-law kept pushing us to use the same venue she used for her reception.  I got so frustrated, I finally caved in to her.  The result was that our wedding looked more like Joanie’s reception than our own wedding.  I wish I had just said no to her and selected our own venue.”

Lesson Learned:

Wait until you are in a calm place emotionally to make major decisions about your wedding.

Wedding Advice #7 from Helen M.: Ignore Your Fairytale

“This is going to sound harsh but the one thing I wish someone had told me was to ignore my fairytale picture of what my wedding dress should look like.

I am very short, and a little heavy, but had my heart set on a princess ball gown since I was a little girl.  No one would tell me the truth when dress shopping because they did not want to hurt my feelings.

Looking back on my wedding pictures, I look more like a fluffy white poof ball than a bride.   I looked a lot shorter than I am, and was hidden in layers of fabric.  A style that elongated my look with less fabric would have been a better choice.”

Lesson Learned:

Trust your dress consultant.  She/he is experienced in creating the best look for every bride based on size and style.

Wedding Advice #8 from Jen D.: The Best Advice

Jen says:  “Help me understand this.  You are going to spend tons of money, endless hours of your time and you are not going to get what you want for your wedding?  You’re kidding me, right?”

Lesson Learned:

This is your day.  Own it.

Wedding Advice #9 from Lutica F.: Stop Looking

Once you make your wedding decisions, stop second guessing.  You will simplify your wedding planning and feel less stress when you stop looking for more ideas after your decision is made.Have you made wedding decisions, but keep rethinking them? Read this wedding advice from a former bride to help you look forward. #bridal #wedding

I changed the shade of our bridesmaids’ dresses three times and in the end it really did not matter.  What a waste or time, I could have spent on the vital details of my wedding – like writing our own vows.”

Lesson Learned:

Comparison is the enemy of your wedding peace and joy.  The only competition you have is in your mirror.

Wedding Advice #10 from Ashley: Stay True to Your Vision

“Before you start your wedding planning, and throughout the process, take the time to envision the total picture of how you want to remember you wedding day. Write it down and refer to it when faced with wedding decisions.  Ask yourself “Does this support my wedding vision, or is my money better spent?”   It is easy to make decisions when you are focused on the memories you are making.”

Lesson Learned:

There are thousands of wedding items available.  Stick to your vision and refuse to be dazzled by something that looks nice online, but does not fit your wedding theme or style.

Wedding Advice #11 from Jackie G.: Set Realistic Expectations

“Just because you saw it on Pinterest or at another wedding does not mean it is going to be practical or even possible for your wedding.”  Products, like flowers, styles of venues and rental items may be not available in your area – or are prohibitively expensive.Are you planning your "dream wedding"? Read about being realistic in your wedding planning an still have the perfect wedding day. Great wedding advice from a former bride #wedding #bride

If you cannot find something locally, research why it is not available before insisting you must have it.  There is probably a good reason.  “The flowers we loved online were too fragile for our cold climate. We looked for a hearty substitute, but when we could not find it, we looked to other ideas”.

Lesson Learned:

Be realistic in your expectations and watch wedding planning stress evaporate.

Bonus Tip from Rita at Ceremonies: Just One Sentence

The sentence that has killed more wedding dreams than anything else in the world:

“What Would People Say?”

Lesson Learned:

It does not matter.  There are no opinions (except perhaps your partner’s) that should be important enough to you to take away your dream wedding.

Today is all about you. Do what makes you and your partner happy.

 

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Thank you to all the brides who contributed to this post.  For those who did not make it this time, we love your tips and just ran out of space.  We will be sharing more tips in future posts.

If you have a tip you would like to share, we’d love to hear from you.  It can be anything wedding related that will help other brides. After all, you are the expert.

 

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11 Dress Tips – You’ll Find Your Perfect Dress Tip Here

We asked brides to share a dress tip they wish someone had told them before they went dress shopping.  We’ve collected the top 11 dress tips for you here, and added a couple of bonuses at the end, because we liked them too.  Read and learn before you shop.  You’ll be happy you did.

Read the favorite dress tip from brides before you buy your wedding dress. #bride #wedding

Dress Tip 1 from Ashley W.: What  Do You Want to Wear?

Read brides favorite dress tip they wish they knew before they bought their dress. #weddingplanning #weddingideas Thinking about what to wear for your wedding?

Past brides tell us they wished they had been more selective in choosing their wedding attire to reflect their personal style.

Your wedding attire no longer needs to be white or a dress!

Wear whatever dress, skirt, pants, pink tutu, sparkling leotard, or outfit that makes you feel fabulous and gorgeous.

How about your favorite cowboy boots, comfy Cinderella ballet slippers,  or 5 inch stilettos showered in faceted crystal embellishments?  Your day.  Your choice.   Read these wedding dress tips that 11 brides wish they knew before they bought their dress.

Choose a color you love and that compliments your skin tone.

If you are not smiling, you’re wearing the wrong thing for the biggest day of your life.

Look and feel marvelous, darling.  It is your day.

 Dress Tip 2 from Rebecca C.: Destination Wedding

When planning a destination wedding, carry your wedding gown with you  Must airlines will allow you to take it as a carry-on, but be sure to check before you book your flight.

If you must ship you dress, be sure to do so in advance.  Insure it, and ship to your onsite coordinator or someone who can unpack and hang your dress to get rid of wrinkles.

Dress Tip 3 from Lauren B.: Buy the Best Size

Read these wedding dress tips that brides shared - before you buy your dress. #weddingdress #brideMany brides plan to lose weight before their wedding day.  (Sigh)

When shopping for your wedding dress, shop for your current size, not the size you are hoping to be.  It is much easier and less expensive for a seamstress to work with a dress that is too large than one that is too small.

Most dresses can be altered down two sizes, but only up one size.

And, not be a downer, but wedding planning is stressful, and you may not be able to lose the weight you planned. (Sorry.)

 

Dress Tip 4 from Sabine J.: When to Shop

Read the favorite wedding dress tip shared by brides -before you buy your dress. #bridal #wedding Wedding gowns take four to six months to arrive – sometimes longer for designer gowns.

Then you will need time to accessorize and for alterations.

Shop during the off-wedding and end of season sales for the best buys.

Wedding shops anticipate many holiday engagements and tend to stock up on dresses to accommodate brides who will soon be shopping.

If you shop for your dress before the new year, you will beat all the newly engaged rush that comes in January

You may even get a good deal on some of the older stock that salons have on hand and want to move to make space for their new inventory.

Dress Tip 5 from Jane H.: Your Wedding Undergarments

 Wear the right undergarments when dress shopping.  Nude bra (strapless if you are looking for a strapless dress) and panties.

Bring your shape-wear if you plan to wear it for the wedding.

You want the complete look, not guessing and hoping it will look better when you have the right undergarments.

And don’t forget to bring shoes like the style and height you plan to wear on your wedding day.  Your shoes can have an enormous impact on how your dress looks on you, not only for length, but the overall hang of the dress on your frame.

Dress Tip 6 from Hannah P.: Trust Your Consultant

Wedding dresses often look very different on the hanger than they will on you.

If your consultant recommends you try on a dress that you did not pick out, have faith in her/his experience and try the dress on.  She can often detect the perfect dress for you based on your height, size and overall wedding vision.

It will only take a few minutes and it may be your perfect dress.

Dress Tip 7 from Joy W.: Embellishments are Expensive

Perfect Wedding Dress Tip for You. #weddingress #bride

Embroidery, beading and embellishments always add to the cost of the dress.

They are often applied painstakingly by hand.  They will also increase your alterations budget.

If glitz and glam is your style, go for it.  Just be sure to consider it in your dress budget.

 

Dress Tip 8 from Misty K.: Belt Your Dress

Adding a belt helps define your waist.

You can either choose a belted wedding dress or ask your bridal consultant to suggest some beaded or embellished belts that will accent your dress and your waist.

A personalized belt could also be the perfect way to add “Mom’s dress” into your wedding.  Have embellishments from her dress made into a belt to compliment your dress.  She’ll love it.

Dress Tip 9 from Priscilla H.: Storing Your Dress

After you purchase your dress, ask the bridal salon if they will store it until close to your wedding day.

It can be kept safely in the store, not crushed in your personal closet.(And out of view from those who want to sneak a peek.)

Ask the salon to freshly steam your dress before you pick it up and you’ll be ready for your special day.

After you pick up your dress, be sure to try it on with all your accessories – shoes,veil,  and jewelry.

Make sure it all fits your vision and make any necessary adjustments.

Don’t forget to try going to the bathroom in your dress too.  You will need to know how to handle the logistics before your wedding day.

Dress Tip 10 from Shannon H.: Alterations

Alterations are normal for wedding dresses.

The average dress will require three alterations before achieving the perfect fit. Don’t expect your dress to fit perfectly after your first alteration appointment.

Cost of alterations can be as much as 30% – 50% of your wedding dress purchase price.  Be sure to ask the costs before you buy the dress, so you can calculate them into your budget.

One way to save on alteration costs, is to order your dress early and schedule them during the off-wedding seasons when demand is lower.

Dress Tip 11 from Lisa P.: Mom’s Dress

Read the favorite wedding dress tip of brides- they wish they knew before they bought their dresses. #weddingplanning #brideIs your mom infatuated with the idea of you wearing her wedding dress, while you want something that reflects you and your style?

Consider a compromise by having beaded accents or embellishments from your mom’s gown or veil added to your veil or dress.

Or use portion of the dress to wrap your bridal bouquet, make a belt, or lightweight wrap for a chilly wedding evening.

 

 

Bonus Tip 1: from Uma L.: Back of the Dress

Read the wedding dress tips bridies wish they knew before buying thier dresses. #weddingides #bride

 

Don’t forget to give your attention to the back of your wedding dress when shopping.  Take pictures so you can clearly see how the back looks.

You will have your back to your guests for most of your ceremony and you want to be sure to awe guests as they watch you take your vows.

 

Bonus Tip 2 from Kathy M.: Sit Down

If you cannot sit in your dress, it is going to be a very long day- and not in a good way.

Test it before you purchase or alter.  (No one looks gorgeous when they have been standing in heels for 8 hours.)

 

 

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Thank you to all the brides who contributed to this post.  For those who did not make it this time, we love your tips and just ran out of space.  We will be sharing more tips in future posts.

If you have a tip you would like to share, we’d love to hear from you.  It can be anything wedding related that will help other brides. After all, you are the expert.

 

Forward your ideas and comments  either by posting them in the comments or sending me an email.

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Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me  if you have any questions.

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Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day – 11 Things You Wish You Knew

Your wedding day is finally here.  You have planned and made sure everything will run smoothly.  Be sure to read these bridal beauty tips for your wedding day, so that all your hard work and planning will result in the wedding day of your dreams.  They are simple tips that brides shared with us and said they wish someone had told them to do on their wedding day.  Thanks to all who shared.

 

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Bridal Beauty Tip #1

You Have to Keep Hair and Makeup Appointments Running on Time

Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day - 11 Things You Wish You Knew #bridal #weddingday Your wedding day is much like scheduling airplanes at an airport.  Once you get behind schedule, the entire day will fall behind.  And we all get frustrated when we see those “flight delayed’ signs.

Sticking to your hair and makeup schedule is crucial to the timeline of your entire wedding day.  It is usually early in the day and will set the tone for the rest of the day.  As soon as you fall behind, stress creeps in, taps you on the shoulder and your day goes from the most exciting day of your life to a day filled with anxiety.

Make sure you set a schedule that you and your bridesmaids can meet and are clear to everyone in advance of when they need to be where.

Photographers will arrive immediately after your hair and makeup, and your day is off in a whirlwind.

When in doubt, allow extra time for your beauty appointments.

If you are done early you can use the time to relax.  (Make sure your bridesmaids do the same.)

Bridal Beauty Tip # 2

You’ll Need Tips for Hair and Makeup 

Put tips for makeup artists and hair stylists in an envelope with their name on it in advance.  Give it to your Maid of Honor to hand out when they are finished with your appointment.

You will be so busy and excited that you may forget to tip or bring cash.

Bridal Beauty Tip  # 3

No One Cares If You Are Skinny

Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day - 11 Things You Wish You Knew #weddingday #brideNo one (except you) cares how skinny you are on your wedding day.

You are not going to be standing in front of a mirror looking at how flat your stomach is or how much your arms jiggle.  And your guests are not going to be judging either.

(Okay, there may be a few, but you know who they are.  And aren’t they always looking for ways they can feel superior to you?  That’s their problem, not yours.)

Guests are delighted to be sharing your wedding day, and will not notice the agony you endured to lose those last couple of pounds.

Don’t get overwhelmed with weight and weight lost so that your months before the wedding are diet – agony rather than the joyful time thy should be.

Focus on being a relaxed happy bride, no matter what your weight.

You’ll look marvelous, darling.

 Bridal Beauty Tip # 4 

You Are Gonna Sweat

You are going to be so active on your wedding day that your body may well overheat. Be prepared to get get sweaty in that long heavy dress.

Stay comfortable by running deodorant or baby powder between your legs before putting your dress on.

You may need to reapply during the day, so be sure to have them in your touch up kit.

Oil blotters for makeup are also a necessity. (If you forget yours, the disposable toilet seat covers in public bathrooms will also work, just be sure you throw away the top one.)

And if you are wearing dress on a warm day, pack a small portable fan.  You and your MOH (or even better your partner) can slip out for a few minutes during the reception for a cool down period.

Bridal Beauty Tip # 5

Your Face Will Hurt

Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day - 11 Things You Wish You Knew #bridal #weddingIt’s your wedding day.  You will be smiling for as much as eight hours.

Your face and face muscles are going to hurt.

And you are going to be exhausted and possibly feeling a bit beat up from all those hugs.

Just warning you.

Not much you can do but get plenty of rest before your wedding and remember that you are the star of the day.

 

 Bridal Beauty Tip #6

You Must Stay Hydrated

Stay hydrated throughout your wedding day.

You will quickly dehydrate between the excitement and the heat.  Drink a lot of water.

Assign someone to make sure you always have water available to you.

TIP : Alcohol and sodas will not keep your hydrated like plain old water. If you don’t like plain water,                   check out some the flavored water in advance.

Of course, more water means you will have to pee more, but we’ll tackle that issue in a later tip.

 Bridal Beauty Tip #7

You Will Cry

Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day - 11 Things You Wish You Knew #bride #weddingWear waterproof mascara. Period.

You will cry when you least expect it.

As you walk down the aisle, when your groom tears up, when your Father-in-law calls you daughter.

There are many emotional moments throughout your wedding day.

Bring tissues and enjoy the moments and the pictures without those runny mascara lines.

 

 Bridal Beauty Tip # 8

You Are Going to Need to Pee

 If you do not want to take your dress off when going to the bathroom, sit on the toilet backwards.

Your train and your bustle will be out of the way.

Have your MOH stand by in case you need help.

Be sure to practice bathroom breaks so you will be prepared on your wedding day.

Bridal Beauty Tip # 9

You’ll Want to Cool Down

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If you are feeling hot when preparing for your wedding day, run your wrists under cold tap water for at least five minutes.

It will cool your blood and you will feel cool all over and ready for your big day.

Works great later in the day too, if you get overheated at the reception.

A bit of ice in a sealed bag and wrapped in a washcloth or napkin and placed on the back of your neck will also cool you down quickly.

 

Bridal Beauty Tip # 10

Don’t Overdue the Perfume

 Don’t overdo the perfume on your wedding day.

If you are wearing a new “special” perfume or cologne, do a test run with your partner in advance.  There is always the possibility that he/she will not like it or even be allergic to it.  Better to know, than get the wrong kind of wedding surprise.

Heavy perfumes can make you or others nauseous.

They also attracts bugs, so be wary if you are having an outdoor ceremony, reception or pictures.

(The same is true for the groom’s cologne.)

Bridal Beauty Tip # 11

Don’t Forget Your Lipstick

Bridal Beauty Tips for Your Wedding Day - 11 Things You Wish You Knew #bridalbeauty #bride  If you are having a makeup artist, be sure to pack lipstick for touching up throughout the day.

Ask for the brand and shade she is using when you have your makeup trial and either purchase from her or match it with your own brand.

If you are doing your own makeup, you’ll want to take a touch-up kit with you.

Ask your MOH to check your makeup before pictures, your reception entrance, cake cutting, etc. and be on hand to help with a quick touch up, if needed.

 

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Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me  if you have any questions.

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Dream Wedding Day – 11 Tips for Brides To Do On Their Wedding Day

The wedding planning is complete. You have everything in place and your dream wedding day is finally here.

Our 11 Tips for your dream wedding day provide ideas for making your day flow smoothly, so you can relax and enjoy the best day of your life.   Relax and enjoy.  You got this girl.

 Read these 11 tips for the day of your dream wedding day . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception. Hugs. #wedding #bride

Getting Ready Shirt – On Your Dream Wedding Day 

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception. Hugs. #wedding #bride

When you get up on the morning of your  dream wedding day, be sure to put on a shirt that opens all the way down the front.  You will not want to risk mussing your hair or makeup after they are done by having to slip your blouse  over your head.  Photographers also recommend avoiding wearing a bra with straps on the morning of your wedding to eliminate  strap marks pictures.  Who Knew?

 

 

Don’t Plan Too Much On Your Dream Wedding Day  

Don’t over-plan activities for your wedding morning.  If it is in your budget, get a massage.  Take a nap, go for a long walk or other activity you enjoy. Relax.

You will be refreshed and ready for your wedding festivities when you take care of those last-minute details no later than the day before your wedding.

Avoid trying to jam too much into your morning – making hair, make up and nail appointments, followed by a stop at the ceremony and reception venues and maybe even finishing up favors.  This is a guaranteed formula for an exhausted bride and wedding day overload.

Got to Please Yourself  On Your Dream Wedding Day 

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #bride

This is one the biggest days of your life.  This is your dream wedding day.  Your wedding is not the time to please everyone. In fact, that is impossible to do.  Focus on you and your groom – what you want and let the rest go by.

There is an old Ricky Nelson song (1985 – probably before you were born) called Garden Party.  It ended:

“And it’s all right now, learned my lesson well.
You see, ya can’t please everyone, so you got to please yourself.”

Enough said.

Eat at Your Reception

Don’t forget to eat at your reception.  Between the excitement, hugs, tears, pictures and dances, it is easy to forget to eat.  If needed, ask someone to remind you when it is time to eat, then listen to them.

You will need the energy generated by food to enjoy every moment of your dream wedding day.

Your Wedding Reflects You

Your wedding style and makeup should reflect the person you really are.  Resist the urge to do an up-do that makes you look like a poodle or wearing tons of makeup if you are low makeup kind of girl.   You will be more comfortable, and your wedding pictures will reflect the real you when you stay true to yourself. You’ll love looking back on your dream wedding day memories and seeing the woman your husband fell in love with.

Be Flexible On Your Dream Wedding Day 

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #brideBe flexible on the day of your wedding – especially if you have children in the celebration.

Even if they have practiced and know their roles well, some simply will not want to participate or perform an agreed upon task.  They may be shy, overwhelmed or just not in the mood.  Do not force them to do so.

Just eliminate whatever you had planned as their part, regroup and move on.

The drama is just not worth it (and you won’t get what your envisioned in your dream wedding day anyway when you try to make  children perform).

Timeline For Your Dream Wedding Day 

Weddings are a celebration and generally do not run on an exact timeline.  Brides and grooms who focus on enjoying their day rather than getting caught up in everything going perfectly on a schedule look back on wedding memories with a sense of joy and gratitude.

Your guests are there because they love you and want to share your special day with you.  Within reason, does it really matter if the reception started 10 minutes late or early?

When you keep your guests in the loop about what is happening, they will go with the flow.

Calming Wedding Nerves on Your Dream Wedding Day

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #brideDoing a first look before the wedding ceremony saves time between the ceremony and the reception.

An often-overlooked benefit is that it also calms the nerves of the bride and groom and spreads the excitement over a longer period when you can enjoy it.

If you are superstitious about seeing the groom before the wedding, have a private mini-ceremony before your pictures.  Now you can relax and enjoy your public ceremony and the rest of your day. If guests complain or negatively comment, just smile and remember that is their problem, not yours.

 

You Won’t Want to Eat on Your Dream Wedding Day 

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #bridePlanning an expensive breakfast or brunch for you and your bridesmaids on the morning of your wedding is probably going to be a waste.  The nervous energy you and your party are likely to have will not work well with rich foods.  Plan basic comfort foods – not fancy.  And make sure you have some pretzels or other grease free snacks you can enjoy if you get the munchies after you are dressed.

Excessive Alcohol Turns Dream Wedding Day into Nightmare

Your reception is a party.  But resist the temptation to drink excessive alcohol.  You really don’t want to be “the one” in your wedding photos in the less than flattering pictures.  Besides you will want to remember and enjoy your wedding night.

Your # 1 Priority– Be Happy and Show It – On Your Dream Wedding Day

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #brideYour guests will not remember your centerpieces, the favors, or your wedding shoes.  They will remember how happy you are, how much you showed your love for your new partner, and that you included them in your wedding day.  Oh, yes and that you spent a few moments with them.

Enjoy every moment.  It really does only happen once in a lifetime.

Prioritize how you spend your dream wedding day.  Spend time for guests, and don’t forget to reserve some time to spend alone with your new spouse too.

Create your memories around people, not items.

I’d Love to Hear from You

Your dream wedding day is finally here. Read these 11 tips for the day of your wedding . Relax and enjoy your ceremony and reception.Hugs. #wedding #bride

If you have ideas to help our brides, please enter them in the comment area, or send me an email.  When we use your idea in our blog, Pinterest, or  next book, we will give you credit.  Please share your ideas, after all you are the real wedding expert.  You are living your dream.

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Please follow our Pinterest Boards.  We love it when you save our pins and follow our boards and share with friends.  We have included lots of ideas, tips, hacks, DIY, ceremonies, receptions and vows, and plans to make your wedding Meaningful.  Magical.  Memorable.  Visit often. We update daily.

Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me  if you have any questions.

You can reach me here.

I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.)

Hugs,   Rita

 

When Wedding Planning – 11 More Tips For Brides to Create Their Special Day

When wedding planning, you will be faced with planning what may be the largest event you have ever planning, and certainly one of the most important ones of your life.  These 11 Tips will will help you focus on what is important and accomplish the things that will make your wedding dreams come true.  Read on and find the magic you can create when wedding planning for your special day.

Read 11 More Tips for Wedding Planning. Brides you will be glad you implemented these to simplify your wedding planning and create your dream wedding ceremony and reception. Hugs. #weddingplanning #wedding

Stay True to Your Vision When Wedding Planning 

Read 11 More Tips for Wedding Planning. Ideas and advice to make your wedding planning easier and your wedding day dream come true. Bride tested and approved. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning

Before you start your wedding planning, and throughout the process, take the time to envision the total picture of how you want to remember your wedding day. Write your vision down in detail.  Refer to it when faced with wedding decisions.  Ask yourself “Does this support my total wedding vision?  Is my money better spent?”  It is so much easier to make decisions when you are focused on the total picture and how you want to remember your wedding day.

 

Formula for Your Dream Wedding

When Wedding Planning - 11 More Tips for Brides. Bride tested and approved for creating the wedding dream wedding. Wedding planning simplified. Please read. #wedding #weddingplanning

Here is an easy formula for your dream wedding.

  • Set up your budget.
  • Decide what parts of the wedding day are most important to you.
  • Spend your money on the important things.
  • Cut spending in areas that are not as important to you.
  • Planning Results = Dream Wedding.

Stop Looking When Wedding Planning 

Once you make your wedding decisions, stop second guessing yourself. You simplify your wedding planning and are much happier when you stop looking for more ideas once your decision is made.  Your budget will thank you too as you avoid making duplicate purchases.

Can’t Please Everyone  When Wedding Planning 

11 Tips for Brides When Wedding Planning. Bride tested and approved. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning

You will find that everyone has an opinion.  Some you will like, and others will make you sigh.

You are not here to make everyone else’s wedding dream come true.  If you do not walk down the aisle to Aunt Martha’s favorite wedding song,  or use the traditional wedding music used by your family for generations, it is OK.  Let the drama be their problem, not yours. You are not doing all this work to please everyone.  It’s your day.  Let it go and concentrate on what makes you and your partner happy.

Bachelorette Party – When It is Not Your Style

Not only is the wedding day all about you and what you like, so are the wedding preparations and parties.

If a raucous bachelorette party is not your style, say so.  It is your wedding.  Ask your Maid of Honor to plan something you will enjoy or skip the bachelorette party all together.

Forget About Perfection When Wedding Planning 

Many brides worry about having the absolutely perfect wedding day.  (Okay, that is an awesome dream and what everyone wants.)  But the result is that brides become so stressed watching every detail unfold on their wedding day that it is almost like they are waiting for something to go astray.

What happens?  They miss out on the little awesome moments that are memorable and are going on around them while they wait for the one thing that might (but probably won’t) go wrong.

When things do not go exactly as planned, enjoy the moment and make incredible  spontaneous memories.  Don’t fret about the mistakes or problems.  They really do not matter in the big picture, and often make the best memories.

Making Decisions When Wedding Planning 

Read 11 more tips from brides about wedding planning and how to create your dream wedding day. Bride tested and approved. Hugs. #weddingplanning #wedding Don’t ever make important wedding planning decisions when you are tired, frustrated, or stressed.   Forcing a decisions “now” because you are being pushed or “just to get it over with”, will surely lead to regrets.

Don’t make decisions when you are overly happy either.  You are likely to overspend.

Wait until you are in a calm place emotionally, carefully weight the options, then go for it!  You got this one.

Compromise When Wedding Planning 

Compromising on your dream wedding is difficult.  But remember it is your partner’s day as much as yours.  Compromise is the best way to start a new marriage.   If you both have things you want that conflict, play the child’s game – You pick one, then I pick one.  It will help you prioritize what is important to you as you also have to pick your highest preferences first. (Be a big girl and offer to allow him to have first pick.)

Spend on What Is Important When Wedding Planning

Read 11 more wedding planning tips that brides have tested and approved. Make your wedding day special, relieve budget worries and relaz. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning

 

Put your money where your dreams are.  Spend your money on what is important to you.

Each bride has her own priorities.  Whether it is food, music, flowers, or your dress, make sure you spend where you are creating the memories you will treasure.  There is no right or wrong – just be sure to spend on what is important to you.

 

Enjoy the Process When Wedding Planning

Don’t allow people to frustrate or upset you when you are wedding planning.  Your wedding day is all about you.  Welcome ideas when others offer them, but always keep in mind it is your wedding.  Enjoy your wedding planning experience as well as the wedding day.  If others are not positive, you may just want to ask them to step back so you can enjoy.

Realistic Expectations – Necessary, But Difficult When Wedding Planning 

11 More Tips for Wedding Planning that will make your day speical. Planning tips that are bride approved and tested. Your ceremony and reception will be filled with joy and memories. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning
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Be realistic in your expectations and watch wedding planning stress evaporate.

Fairy tales are not real.

Just because you saw it on Pinterest or at another wedding does not mean it is practical or even possible for your wedding.  Products, such as flowers, styles of venues and rental items may be not available in your area – or are prohibitively expensive.

Pinterest and wedding magazine weddings are staged.  No matter how much money you spend (unless you have an unlimited budget) you will not have the look of the staged, photo-shopped wedding you see advertised.  Enjoy your wedding and make it all about you.

Conclusion

So there you have it 11 easy ideas to simplify and improve your wedding planning.  We will continue to post ideas and help for our brides and hope you find them helpful.

I’d Love to Hear from You

If you have ideas to help our brides, please enter them in the comment area, or send me an email.  When we use your idea in our blog, Pinterest, or  next book, we will give you credit.  I’d love to hear from you after all you are the real wedding expert.  You are living your dream.

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Follow Us On Pinterest

Our Pinterest Board are packed with all things wedding. An essential guide for every bride. Please read and follow. #bride #wedding #weddingplanning #weddinideas #weddinginspiration

Please follow our Pinterest Boards.  We love it when you save our pins and follow our boards and share with friends.  We have included lots of ideas, tips, hacks, DIY, ceremonies, receptions and vows, and plans to make your wedding Meaningful.  Magical.  Memorable.  Visit often. We update daily.

Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me  if you have any questions.

You can reach me here.

I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.)

Hugs,   Rita

 

 

 

11 Tips for Last Minute Wedding Planning From Former Brides

We asked former brides for their advice on what they wish they knew as part of their wedding planning.  We were surprised (and delighted) when several shared last minute wedding planning advice.  While all said their wedding day was unforgettable – even magical according to Kim – they also shared these simple ideas for last minute wedding planning that would have made their own weddings run just a bit smoother.  Please read and use what you would like for your wedding.

 

Read these tips from former brides for last minute tips they wish they knew for their wedding day. Brides find how to make your ceremony and reception the day you have worked so hard to see. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning #bride

Take Time to Rest

Last Minute Wedding Planning Necessity

The day before your wedding can be hectic and stressful, especially when you  include a lot of DIY in your wedding planning.  Take time to rest on the day before the wedding so you can make sure you are enjoying your wedding.  You will have lots to do on your wedding day, and when you start it feeling exhausted, you will not relish the day – or even remember many of the details.  You don’t want the only memories of your wedding day to be from wedding photographs and videos because you were too tired to remember.

An Alcohol Free Rehearsal

Last Minute  Wedding Planning for the Perfect Ceremony

Your wedding rehearsal should be a serious attempt to finalize your wedding ceremony and make sure the details the next day go according to your plan.  Ask your wedding party to forego the alcohol until after the rehearsal is over.  You will find your rehearsal goes much smoother, you are less stressed, and your attendants are more likely to remember their instructions.  There is plenty of time to party at the rehearsal dinner.

Plan Your Getting Ready Music

11 Last Minute Wedding Planning Tips from Former Brides. You'll be glad your read these before your wedding. Make your wedding day run smoothly and filled with joy. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning #weddingtips #weddingideas #brideDo you have songs that you just love?  That set you dancing and singing and brighten your mood every time you hear them?  Songs that remind you of your partner and how much you love him/her?

Create a getting-ready playlist and have it playing as you are getting ready for your wedding.  Sing along, dance along, have a great time. Wedding stress disappears.

 

Shine Your Ring

Last Minute Wedding Planning Bling

Your'll love this gorgeous set of wedding rings. I can't stop looking at them. Click to make them your own Everyone will be looking at your hands on your wedding day.  Your engagement ring will dazzle guests when you have it cleaned and polished in the days before your wedding.

If you don’t have time for a trip to the jeweler a do-it-yourself clearing will remove hairspray, lotion, makeup, perfume and more.  Make a solution of warm water (not too hot) and dish washing soap.  Soak your ring for 20-40 minutes.  Gently brush the stone and any details with a soft toothbrush  Rinse with warm running water and repeat if needed.

Use a soft cloth made of cotton (not paper towels – they will scratch the metal) to dry, or better yet, just let it air dry.

Instant dazzle, sparkle and bling.

Prepare Vendor Tips

Last Minute  Wedding Planning For Your Reception Peace of Mind

Prepare your vendor tips in advance.  Decide how much tip you want to give and place it in an envelope with the vendor’s name t on the front.  Ask someone you trust to take care of the tipping.

Sometimes vendors go way beyond what is expected of them.  If you find you want to tip more than you originally planned, you can always send a “Bonus tip” with your thank you note and your testimonial/ Read 11 Tips for Last Minute Wedding Planning shared by former brides. Your wedding day will run smoothly with these things most brides never even think about. Hugs. #wedding #bride #weddingplanning #weddingideas #weddinginspiration recommendations.  Be sure to include in your note what the vendor did that was extra special to your day. Recommendations are the bread and butter for most wedding vendors and will be greatly appreciated.

Don’t pre-seal your envelopes.  Use smaller denomination bills.

You can slip some money out of the envelope before giving to the vendor if the full tip is not warranted.
On the positive side, it is much easier for the vendor to share your tip with staff when it is already broken down for them.

Get What You Want

You Are the Bride – Last Minute Wedding Planning You Must Do

Be assertive about what you want.  When you do your final pre-wedding meeting with your vendors or venue walk-through, don’t just accept things that are not done as agreed.  If you have a commitment (especially if you have a contract) to have something completed in  a certain way, then you should have the expectation that it will be completed as agreed.  Don’t settle to keep the peace.  You are paying for what you want. No need to get nasty or go bridezilla, but don’t lay down like a lamb either.  You are the bride.  You have the power to make it happen.

Bring Your Marriage License

Last Minute Wedding Planning to Make It Legal

Please read 11 Tips for Last Minute Wedding Planning from Former Brides to learn the things you will probably not think about on your wedding day until it is too late. Brides are so gals they did. Hugs. #wedding #bride #weddingplanning #weddingideas #weddinginspiration #weddingtips #weddingadvicce Be sure to bring your marriage license and provide it to your officiant.  He/she can only perform a legal marriage when they have the marriage license.  If you are having your officiant attend your rehearsal, ask if you can give it to them then, and there is one less thing for you to worry about on your wedding day.  Also plan who should take care of the signed license.  You will be much too busy enjoying your day to keep track of it.

 

Have Someone to Lean On

Last Minute Wedding Planning You Have Not Considered

Plan to have someone else oversee all the other people in your life who normally depend on you – children, parents, etc.  when you are getting ready for your wedding.  You will be too busy taking care of getting yourself ready to direct their preparations as well.  Make sure they have someone besides you to lean on for the assurances they will need.

For children it should be someone they are comfortable with and will obey.  How about your child care provider or babysitter? Children are used to spending time with him/her and taking instructions.  They will be honored to be part of your special day.

Getting to the Venue

Last Minute Wedding Planning and Time To Make Changes

Take the time to plan how you will exit from your house or bridal suite to the venue.  If you will go outside or have to be transported, clear your path of hindrances that could block your walk.  Small sticks and stones can make you trip or get caught in your gown; overexcited pets, unsteady stairways, or a narrow doorway can impact how you move.

Place a carpet on the floor or ground to prevent the bottom of your dress from getting soiled.  Once you get to the car, enter slowly, and backwards.  Then swing your legs in last.

And also prepare for weather – just in case.  How will you get to your ceremony if it is raining buckets, snowing a blizzard or blowing like a hurricane?  You will want to protect fragile wedding attire, hair and makeup from harsh weather conditions to preserve your perfect wedding look.

Give Reassurances

Last Minute Wedding Planning for Your Partner

11 Last Minute Wedding Planning Tips from Former Brides. Read to learn tips these brides wish they had known before their wedding day. Hugs. #wedding #weddingplanning #bride #weddinginspiration #weddingadvice #weddingideasMake sure you and your partner are not worrying on your wedding day.  Keep each other in the loop if there are delays or changes.  Emotions run high and insecurities often crowd our thoughts.

Create a communication plan with your partner ahead of time so you both know the rules of when and how you will communicate with each other before the wedding.  You can reduce the stress levels for both you and your partner  by something as simple as passing a love note to each other, or a small gift of reassurance.

 

At the Speed of Light

Your wedding day will be over before you know.  Time will fly so quickly that you won’t know where it went.  Plan to be a guest at your own wedding and treasure every second.

I’d Love to Hear from You

If you have ideas to help our brides, please enter them in the comment area, or send me an email.  When we use your idea in our blog, Pinterest, or book, we will give you credit.  I’d to hear from you after all you are the real wedding expert.  You are living your dream.

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5 Tips to Stay Focused on Wedding Planning – Shiny Object Syndrome

5 Tips to Stay Focused on Wedding Planning

Staying Focused on Wedding Planning is a huge challenge for many brides.  It is such an exciting time planning YOUR dream wedding.  It is easy to get distracted.  There are so many new ideas coming at you everyday, it really is a wonder brides can make decisions on their own wedding.  But you can and do.  Once decisions are made it is time to stop looking and concentrate on being focused on wedding planning.  YOUR Wedding Planning.

 

5 Tips for Staying Focused on Wedding Planning. Read for tips for your wedding and having your dream wedding. Avoid distractions and control your wedding budget. Hugs. #wedding #bride #weddingplanning #weddingideas #weddingtips

Have you heard of the Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS)? It is the tendency to chase something new.  SOS  is usually applied in business but is also comes to mind in wedding planning and brides’ visions of their wedding.  Staying Focused in Your Wedding Planning is always a challenge and SOS only makes it worse!

How to Know if You have Shiny Object Syndrome –

Staying Focused on Wedding Planning 

You know that you as a bride have experienced the Shiny Object Syndrome if you :

  • keep seeing the next best wedding dress and can’t decide on “the one” for you. Or even worse you bought the dress and are still dress shopping.
  • are constantly adding new things and ideas to your wedding planning list after you made decisions.  You can’t seem to accomplish any of them.
  • are mesmerized by one Pinterest wedding idea to the next and can’t seem to settle on your own vision.
  • have a collection of wedding apps, tools and books, but you do not actually use any of them.
  • keep looking for more ideas, even when you have made up your mind about your wedding.

 

The Issue with the Shiny Object Syndrome –

And Staying Focused on Wedding Planning 

5 Tips for Staying Focused on Wedding Planning. Read for tips for your wedding and having your dream wedding. Avoid distractions and control your wedding budget. Hugs. #wedding #bride #weddingplanning #weddingideas #weddingtipsMany brides deal with these same issues, so please don’t feel you did anything wrong.  It is called the Shiny Object Syndrome.  It has even been a called a disease – the disease of distraction.  For brides, SOS means being constantly drawn to the latest wedding ideas and abandoning current plans and tasks – many which are already in progress. With all the excitement, it is easy to get distracted.  It takes determination to say focused on wedding planning.

The most obvious example is the “dress regret” when a bride has already purchased her perfect dress, then falls out of love with it, and continues to shop.  The bride isn’t focused on wedding planning but may be caught up the thrills of dress shopping.  (It really can be exciting and is hard to give up.) But there are many other distractions, so please read on.

The name SOS comes from the similarity to a young child’s limited attention span, and almost obsessed  attraction to anything that is new and shiny.  As a new object is placed in front of a child, he/she is intrigued and loses interest in old items, with the process repeating each time a new object is introduced.

5 Tips for Brides on How to Avoid the Shiny Object Syndrome

So how can you stay focused on wedding planning and avoid the shiny object syndrome?

1. Understand That New Does Not Mean Better

It is okay to look (even necessary when you are just beginning and want a unique wedding) at new things and ideas for your wedding.  That is not  Shiny Object Syndrome. As you start to plan your wedding, it is important to keep in touch with the latest trends and updates and know what is available to you – until you make your decisions.

However, once you have made your wedding decisions, and continue to follow every latest look, and doubt your decisions,  you are not focused on YOUR wedding planning.  You are wasting time, money and your energy rather than concentrating on YOUR fabulous wedding.

You must remind yourself that just because something is new or different from what you have selected for your wedding, does not mean it is better.  Just because you have not seen an idea before, does not mean it is better than what you fell in love with.  Trust yourself and what your chose.  It is the real you.

2. Learn to See Past the Hype

Read and learn to see past the hype to your perfect wedding. It is key part of focusing on your wedding planning. #wedding #weddingplanning #bride #weddingadvice #weddingtip #weddinginspiration The wedding industry is an enormous tower of spectacular and innovative ideas and ways to separate you – the bride -from her money.  If you are a Pinterest fanatic (like me) or subscribe to bridal magazines or blogs, you will constantly see new shiny objects presented to you by the wedding industry.

You’ll see rave reviews, celebrity endorsements, gorgeous wedding layouts, promised short term discounts and more.  They are all designed to create a mentality where you feel you need to have this or that for your own wedding – or suffer the shame of a less than perfect wedding.  (My grandma used to call this heifer dust.- A polite way of saying BS.)

See past the propaganda.  What is good for others is not always good for you.  You do not always get what is promised.  Buy today or the deal disappears is a deal that will be back in a couple of days.  95% of the wedding photos you see online and in magazines are not real weddings. And finally, you will never accomplish that look in your real-world wedding no matter how much money you spend or ideas to implement.  They are photo shoots, not weddings.

If you have already found what you love, invested your time and money in it, walk away from the hype and enjoy what you have.  Stop looking.  Your wedding will be fabulous.  Trust me (and yourself).

3. Assess the Fit with Your Wedding Vision

Before you jump on board with the newest and greatest wedding idea, think about how (and if) it fits into your wedding vision.  Or is just the hottest new thing in the wedding industry?  How will it fit into your wedding day?  Your venue?  Your dreams?  Ask yourself:

  • Is this new idea realistic for of my wedding day?  (Don’t be blinded by the shine.)
  • Is this what I really want or need for my wedding day?
  • Will it add value and joy to my wedding day?
  • What are the pros and cons of including this in my wedding?
  • Will anyone care (or even notice) if I make this change?
  • Is this important to my guests and their enjoyment of my wedding?
  • If I include this new idea, what do I have to sacrifice of my current plans?
  • What will it cost in terms of time, money and bride stress, if I make this change?
  • Will I just be one more bride following a trend? If everyone is doing it, my wedding is no longer unique.

Only include something in your wedding if it is what you want or need and if it adds genuine joy and happiness to your wedding memories. Just because others are doing something doesn’t mean you have to.

4. Eliminate Unnecessary Distractions

Focusing on your wedding planning requires you to elimiante the distractions and focus on your wedding planning. Read more to learn how. #wedding #weddingplanning #bride #weddingideas #weddingadvice Remember, SOS is the “disease of distraction”.  The best way to avoid distraction is not through the discipline of ignoring it when you see it.  It is by managing the sources of your distraction, so you never see them in the first place.

Once you have made your wedding planning decisions, there is really no reason for you to continue to spend time researching the latest ideas.  Be satisfied with what you have chosen and invested your time and money in.

Continuing to research weddings ideas on Pinterest and subscribing to wedding magazines and blogs with new offerings, will disrupt your focus from what is important – implementation of YOUR wedding plans.

Avoid the stress of dealing with the overload of information that you no longer need.  (For some great ideas on relieving Bride Stress, we’ve created a series of articles for you.  Click below to read the first in our series later.)

Instead of spending time deleting emails, pinning more pins and draining your mental energy by seeing more trending ideas, remove interruptions and temptations from your field of vision.

Evaluate your social media news feeds, Facebook group memberships, Pinterest browsing, email subscriptions, and RSS feed subscriptions. Unsubscribe from those that are no longer providing you with useful relevant information for your wedding.  Now is the time to focus on YOUR wedding planning

5. Understand the Impact of Switching Your Plans

Despite all that we have said, there are still some of you who will continue to look at new ideas.  And that is okay. It your wedding.  Just be aware that changing plans can be very expensive in terms of time, money and bridal stress.

Why continue to shop when your time is better spent on what you deciding on for YOUR wedding?  You are invariably going to find something that interests you.  This can only lead to two things –

  • disappointment when you decide to forgo the new thing or
  • additional costs to you when you change plans.

The “switching costs” can be monetary but are often invisible costs.  They may be the mental cost of changing your focus and adapting your entire wedding plan to include the new idea.

When you are investing your time and energy in switching, that means that other things you had already planned are going undone.

When enticed with a new idea for your wedding, be sure to factor in such costs.

Conclusion

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Have you been distracted by shiny objects? It’s time to refocus on your own wedding  Clarify your big wedding priorities.  Invest your time and  energy in the areas that focus on your goal – to have a fabulous wedding celebration to begin your new life together.

 

 

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Enjoy your wedding planning and please contact me if you have any questions.  

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Maid of Honor Duties – Day of the Wedding (Part 3 in MOH Series )

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Maid of Honor Duties -Wedding Day Preparations 

The wedding day has finally arrived.  Everyone (especially the bride) is excited, and stressed, and ready for this thing to happen.  The  Maid of Honor duties and the MOH’s calm successful completion of them are keys to a perfect wedding experience.  We’ve compiled a  list of MOH duties and ideas for you to support the bride and make the most important day of her life run smoothly.  Your bride is gonna love you.

 

 

Breakfast for the Bride – Maid of Honor Duties Start Early 

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Make sure the bride eats breakfast.   This is going to be a very long day for her. Make certain  the bride starts the day with a healthy breakfast. (Not just donuts and coffee.  Brides can get grumpy when they start the day with a sugar rush.)

Help the Bride Relax – An All Day Maid of Honor Duty 

As the MOH you are in the best position to help the bride relax until and including during the ceremony.  Think of things that you can so to make sure there is little or no drama.  Tell her jokes, share memories she has with other members of the bridal party, and her groom, watch a favorite movie.  Make sure the atmosphere is as quiet and away from the hustle bustle of the wedding preparations that do not include the bride.  If there is time, this is a wonderful day for a massage, long soak in the hot tub, or whatever it is that relaxes the bride.  The groom and groomsmen often play golf before the wedding.  What does your bride enjoy.  Do it.

 

Maid Honor, MOH, toast, wedding, Maid of Honor Duties, MOH DutiesBe Alert for Alcohol Consumed By the Wedding Party Before the Wedding

While it is nice to celebrate with the bride before the ceremony, it is never a good idea to let the champagne overflow.   If you are having alcohol, but sure to have plenty of munchies around for everyone.  And don’t forget water and non-alcoholic options.

 

Guidance for Bridesmaids – One of the Maid of Honor Duties That Can Be Tedious

Inform the bridesmaids of the complete schedule for the day and help them remain on the schedule. You’ll want to complete a quick check throughout the day to make sure each of the bridesmaids (and ring bearer and flower girls) are where they need to be and ready at the appointed time.  You don’t have to “be in charge”, just do your best to keep everyone organized and on track. (It may feel like herding cats, but someone has to do it.)

Have the Bride’s Favorite Treat On Hand

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Try to have some of the bride’s favorite snacks or treats on on hand.  It is a wonderful way to calm her if nerves start showing  Dark chocolate is always a good option.  And don’t forget the Tums.

Drop Off Any Reception Items at the Venue

The Maid of Honor Duties are very broad.  You may be able to get this done at the rehearsal; just be sure all the tiny details make it to the ceremony and reception venues.  Guest books with pens, matches or lighter for lighting candles, seating charts and cards, cake knife and server, toasting glasses, signs, any special unity ceremony items should all be dropped off at the venue in advance of when the bride arrives.  Determine if you or someone else will be responsible for placing them on the wedding day, so you can allow adequate time in your schedule.

Confirm with the officiant, that you have the wedding license at the ceremony venue.  He/she will probably want to keep it until after the wedding when it is signed.

Act as a Gatekeeper- MOH Duties – You’re A Policeperson!

If there are family members or “friends” that will stress the bride, it is your job to keep them away from the bride if you can. She has already heard all their issues before the wedding, and it is pointless to rehash them on the best day of her life.

Bring Drinking Straws

Once the bride and bridal party’s makeup is in place, encourage everyone to drink from a straw to avoid smearing lipstick and gloss. This is especially important if the makeup artist used multiple colors for the lips.

Help the Bride Get Ready

Maid of Honor Duties, MOH Duties,One of the primary Maid of Honor duties is assisting the bride in getting into her dress, and putting on veil, shoes and accessories. Be ready and available to grab or do whatever the bride (or her makeup artist, hairdresser, etc. ) need to help her get ready and looking gorgeous from head to toe.  After the ceremony you will also help bustle the bride’s gown, if needed.

Assist the Bride in the Bathroom – Not a Favorite MOH Duty – But Greatly Appreciated

Once the bride has donned her wedding gown,  it may be necessary to have someone help her in the ladies’ room and make sure the dress looks perfect when finished. If possible, do a practice run of this in a space the size of the restroom you will have available to you.  You want to know what works and what you need to rethink before the wedding day.

Vendor Check

Confirm that vendors are in place (Be sure to keep a list of phone numbers handy!).  This duty may be assumed by the coordinator; however, you can convey that all is in place to the bride if she is anxious.  As the officiant, I always communicate with the Maid of  Honor when I arrive at the ceremony venue and ask her to tell that bride that I am onsite.  You would be surprised how many brides have the secret fear that the officiant will forget, have an accident or flat tire, or just not show up.  I remove this worry and the bride relaxes.

Marriage License Signing

Confirm where and when the marriage license will be signed with the officiant, and communicate to the bride, groom, best man and photographer. After the signing, take possession of the signed license so the couple will not have to worry about it until after the honeymoon. (If the bride and groom will see each other before the wedding, and the officiant agrees, the license can be completed before the wedding, with pictures. One less thing to take time between the ceremony and reception.)

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Carry Tissues

Carry a few tissues in case the bride, groom or bridesmaids shed a few happy tears.

Act as the Bride’s Messenger

The bride is going to be very busy for at least part of her pre-ceremony day.  She will be “stuck” getting her hair and make-up done and unavailable to address the tiny details that are going through her head during these times. Plan to be at her side to grab a snack for her, relay messages to the groom, check her phone, get answers to her questions and worries, so she can relax and remain calm during the stress of the pre-ceremony preparations.

Wedding Day Emergency Kit

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Remember that wedding day emergency kit you spend so much time preparing?  Now is when all your hard work pays off.  You are prepared for any last minute emergency that can arise.  Be sure to bring your kit to the bridal suite where the bridal party dresses for the wedding, to the ceremony venue, and to the reception location.  Doesn’t it make you feel like Superwoman knowing you are ready for anything?  Your bride is so lucky to have you at her side.

Groom’s Ring

Maid of Honor Duties, MOH Duties, Groom Ring Keep the groom’s ring safe until the ceremony.  Experts recommend that the Maid of Honor wear the groom’s ring on her thumb.  Nothing is more embarrassing than standing in front of a venue full of guests and realizing you left the groom’s ring in the bridal suite.  Triple check you have it before you leave the suite (Sometimes the Best Man holds both rings.  Be sure you confirm that he has them if this is the case.)

First Look

If the couple is planning a first look, make sure that everything is in place, that the bride is ready.  Some First Look Photos also include the bridal party, so you’ll also be watching the time and making sure everyone is ready and in place.

Before Leaving for the Ceremony

Be sure to check in advance if anyone needs to go to the bathroom, or touch up makeup.  These last-minute tasks are why weddings fall woefully behind schedule  (Remember bride bathroom breaks can take a lot longer than normal once she has he wedding dress on.  Plan accordingly.)

Take One More Look

A few minutes before you leave for the ceremony, ask the bride to stand quietly in place.  Now walk around her and check for any tiny last minute details that may need adjustment.  From the top of her head, ot the soles of her feet – everything is flawless and ready to go.

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Get Them to the Church on Time

Get the bride and bridal party to the church or ceremony venue on time

 

 

Thank You

Maid of Honor, MOH, MOH & Wedding PlanningFor those who read Parts 1 and 2 and have been lighting up my inbox sending comments and personal ideas, Thank You.  We (and all the brides reading this) appreciate your sharing. ”  Please keep sending me your comments.  I plan to share them in a future post.

I look forward to seeing your ideas and comments  in future posts. Please keep sending them to me. You are the expert I would love to hear from.  Hugs.  My email address: rita@ceremoniestolove.com

 

 

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MOH – Maid of Honor During the Wedding Planning (Part 2)

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During the Wedding Planning – Maid of Honor (MOH) – Bride Support # 1

This is the second in our series of articles for Maid of Honor (MOH).  The first article focused on what you need to do before the wedding planning begins to be an awesome MOH.  (We’ll add a link at the bottom of this article  so you can read it later.  In this article we look at the Maid of Honor’s duties and the expectations of the bride during the wedding planning process.  Keep in mind that we offer a wide variety of ideas for you to consider  In many areas of  the country and the world traditions differ. If a duty is assumed by someone else, feel free to skip it and move on.

Assist the Bride – The MOH is Her Right Hand Woman

The bride should feel comfortable asking for your help, support and ideas.  The reality is that many brides just assume that you know she needs your help,and you will offer.  No one asks, no one offers –  miscommunication and hurt feelings result.  If the bride does not ask for help, communicate regularly with her to sincerely offer your help and assistance. If you do not have the time or money to help, resist the urge to make the offer.

Help with Pre-wedding  Tasks

There are so many tiny details like sstuffing invitations, assembling favors, attending vendor meetings, etc. that the bride is always looking for help and support.  As MOH, make sure your bride knows your availability schedule and help whenever you can. You can also coordinate the participation of the other bridesmaids for workdays, appointments, etc.   If you are remote, there are still ways you can help.   You can address wedding invitations  and mail from anywhere.  You can share ideas online, do research and offer offer virtual hugs when needed.

Go Dress Shopping with the Bride

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This is one of the best parts of being a Maid of Honor (unless your bride cannot make a decision after multiple appointments- then it may become a chore).  Your job is to  stay by the bride’s side through the entire process.  Provide positive, constructive feedback and help the bride see her entire wedding look including veil, shoes and makeup. If needed, you may need to calm the bride’s nerves or mediate differences of opinion within the bride’s entourage at bridal appointments.  Remember you are here to support the bride.

Help Select the Bridesmaids’ Dresses and Accessories

The Bride may elect to include all bridesmaids in this decision.  If so, you may need your negotiation skills to come to a consensus. Remember you job is to support the bride’s wishes.

Bride’s Cheerleader and Shoulder to Cry On

Maid of Honor, MOH,MOH & wedding planning Wedding planning can be stressful for all brides.  In all likelihood, you are comfortable talking with the bride sharing her thoughts and frustrations.  She should feel confident that anything she shares with you  will be held in confidence and not shared with others.  If  you cannot be there in person, reach out electronically, send notes and funny greeting cards and stay in touch with the bride’s feelings.  (We created an entire series on wedding planning stress, be sure to check it out. You may need it for you or  your bride during the wedding planning.)

Registry Information

Guests often need help with wedding registry information.  You can provide support to the bride by having these questions routed to you.

Cash as A Gift

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If it is cash is on the couple’s wish list, discuss with the bride and groom in advance how they would like you to respond when you get questions.  This can be a touchy subject with some guests and considered distasteful and down right tacky by many guests, especially those from older generations.

If the couple is requesting cash to help with the purchase or update a new home, for honeymoon expenses be sure you know the details.  When guests call,  you can support the bride and groom by sharing details.  This personalizes the use of the money and guests are more  likely to give.

If the couple is requesting gifts to their favorite charity, do some research on the charity, so you can answer questions about it.  Again, when you make charity real them, guests will be more inclined to give.

No Pressure – It is A Gift

Make sure guests do not feel pressured to give their cash.  If they say no, thank them and let it go.  This is between the couple and the guests.  Remember the old saying “Don’t shoot the messenger”.    Do not try to persuade guests  to give cash.  e are talking about a gift, not a donation to their favorite cause

Gifts

You will be asked to keep track of gifts received at wedding showers and parties.  Make sure the bride has addresses for the Thank You notes.  Be prepared to transport gifts after the party if it is a large event.  Being shopping bagsnor boxes to simplify transport and make sure smaller gifts and envelopes do not get lost

Plan the Bridal Shower

MOH, Maid of Honor, Bridal Shower The bride will provide a list of potential guests.  You are responsible for coordinating the party and in charge of details and the invitations. (Bridesmaids should also help financially, so be sure to include them in your planning.)

Note

In some areas the Mother of the Bride and/or Mother of the Groom give the shower(s).  Check with them before you plan.  No need to step on toes.

Plan the Bachelorette Party

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Be sure you consider the bride’s style when planning.  Ask her if she wants a bachelorette party, and if she declines, respect her wishes.  If she accepts, have a discussion about  what  she would like for her party. Bachelorette parties have a reputation for being risque,  alcohol filled parties. If this is not your bride’s style, consider other options.   Remember this event is for the bride and should be activities she enjoys. Ideas such as taking in a show, a spa day, or day (or weekend) at the beach are becoming increasingly popular with today’s bride.

Keep costs in mind when planning.  If you expect bridesmaids to pay part of the tab (which is customary), they should be asked for their input before final decisions are made, not just told what their contribution will be.

Act as the Point Person for the Bridesmaids 

(and gentlemen if the bride has male attendants) in her bridal party.

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  • Organize everyone to make sure they get dresses, shoes, accessories on time, and that alterations are completed on schedule.
  • Coordinate hair and makeup appointments for the bridal party
  • Coordinate transportation and accommodations for the bridal party as needed
  • Direct and support the other bridesmaids with their wedding duties,
  • Provide details for all pre-wedding parties to the other bridesmaids.
  • Deal with any badly-behaving bridesmaids (You’ll know who they are.) There will inevitably be some tension at some point during your wedding planning or on the wedding day between bridesmaids.  The Maid of Honor is the voice of reason when dealing with issues.  Resist the urge to take sides and try to get the maids to resolve their issues quietly and peaceably.  As Maid of Honor, your goal is to not include the bride in these petty issues.

Attend Cake and Menu Tasting as Requested by the Bride

Your bride may ask you to participate in tasting events.  Try to arrange time to attend, and be sure to provide  your bride with your availability so the meetings fit your schedule as well as hers.

DIY Projects – The Maid of Honor Your  Responsibility to the Bride

Maid of Honor, MOH, wedding planning, DIY weddingIt is great to hone your skills, get ready to craft, and be supportive of the bride’s ideas. But also be realistic about your time and the time of the bride.  Creating wedding favors or wedding centerpieces are top DIY projects for many brides.  Websites and magazine articles promise glamorous results that any amateur can create on a shoestring budget.  Most of the items of these picture-perfect creations are made by professionals, and snapped by professional photographers.   

 

Before the Bride Commits to  DIY 

Before the bride fully commits to a DIY project, encourage her to make one sample item to see if it meets her expectations.  When calculating costs consider cost of supplies, tools and equipment.  What space is available for working and storage?  How will you transport completed items to the venue?  If you will be working with fresh flowers, how will you keep them at the proper temperature until needed?  (And, remember floral work has to be made no earlier than the day before the wedding.)   It is your job as the MOH to be sure the bride understands  what DIY really means other planning time and budget. 

Favors

MOH, Maid of Honors, Wedding Planning, Wedding Favors Help  the bride pick favors (and help make them if it is DIY – again be sure to enlist the help of others.)

If the bride is undecided on having favors, it is a growing trend to bypass favors.  Be supportive of her decision.

Bonus Tip:  Guests # 1 choice for wedding favors is always food.

 

 Addressing Invitations

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Help address invitations.  Some MOH also record RSVP responses when received.  Addressing does not have to be completed in one large session.  It is OK to offer to take some home and complete them when you have time.

If you live out of town, you can still help with addressing envelopes.  It is  inexpensive to bulk mail invitations to you to you with a completed sample.  You can drop  addressed invitations in the mail at agreed upon time.  Make sure you stay on schedule.

You can also have RSVPs returned to you for recording.  You can record online in an app or spreadsheet so the information is readily available to you and the bride, and she does not have to do the keying.

Seating Charts and Place Cards

This is a major project, an the bride will appreciate your help.  It is tempting to ignore this step, but research shows that wedding guests overwhelmingly prefer to be assigned to a table instead of choosing their own seating.  You can encourage the  bride to assign tables instead of individual seats, and use a seating chart rather than place cards.  It will save lots of time and money, especially for a large wedding.

Maid of Honor, MOH, wedding music, ceremony music, reception Help in Creating Music Playlists for the Ceremony and the Reception

You probably know the bride’s music tastes as well as anyone – what artists, style and songs she and the groom like and equally important what they do not like.  You can offer to make an initial list of music for the ceremony and/or reception  (and a list that should be avoided) and share it with the bride.  She can tweak it and make it her own, after you have saved her a lot of research time.

Follow Up With Guests Who Have Not Responded to the RSVP

When guests do not respond, the bride stresses because she needs numbers for the venue, caterer, etc.  While having to follow up with each guest is time consuming, it is also a necessity.  As Maid of Honor, help with this task (and include the other bridesmaids too, to make the task go quickly.)

Maid Honor, MOH, toast, weddingGive a toast at the rehearsal dinner (if requested)

Some brides elect to have their wedding toasts at the rehearsal dinner -especially those with long stories or insider humor.  You can then provide a short formal toast at the reception if asked.  Be sure to  ask the bride to share how she plans for the toasting to occur.

Arrange for a Safe Place to Store Gift Envelopes During the Reception

Sadly, cash gifts have been known to vanish during  hectic receptions. The MOH can prevent this issue, by planning a safe place for envelopes during the reception, and make sure they are retrieved and delivered to couple or held until after the honeymoon, if  requested by the  bride.

Thank You

Maid of Honor, MOH, MOH & Wedding PlanningFor those who read Part 1 and have been lighting up my inbox sending comments and personal ideas, Thank You.  We (and all the brides reading this) appreciate your sharing.  I was a little taken aback by how many MOH commented that they had no idea of how much they were committing to do when they agreed to be the Maid of Honor.  Emma V. from Boston, MA shared:

“I thought I was just going to have to be at the ceremony, straighten Ruth’s train and veil and hold the bouquet. No one told me there was so much needed to do before the wedding day.  I would have still said yes.  Ruth and have been friends since we were kids and I wanted to be there for her.  I just wish I knew what I was getting into before I said yes.”

I look forward to seeing your ideas and comments  in future posts. My email address: rita@ceremoniestolove.com

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Maid of Honor – What You Need to Know to Be Awesome (Part 1 in Series)

Being an awesome Maid of Honor is hard work, takes lots of planning, nerves of steel, a bit of luck,  and often a thick skin.  Brides often assume that being an awesome Maid of Honor just happens.  But that is not so.  The individual the bride selects to serve as  her Maid of Honor can make a huge difference in the wedding. Our series of Maid of Honor articles provides you and your bride with all the information you need about being a Maid of Honor.  We include what to do, what not to do, how to support the bride, expectations, and more.

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This article is Part 1 in our Maid of Honor series.  It focuses on things you can do to become an awesome Maid of Honor, providing the support and assistance your bride will need throughout her wedding planning.

In Part 2 we will address your role as Maid of Honor during the wedding planning phase.  To be sure you get the article when it is published, be sure to sign up for our email notifications below.

Part 3 will address the your role as Maid of Honor on the day of the wedding before the ceremony.

Part 4 will include the ceremony and reception.

We also plan to publish an article with your ideas, suggestions, helps and hints about your bridal party. Just email us or send in the comment section below to include your suggestions.

Why Talk About the Maid of Honor?

As a wedding officiant for more than ten years, I have seen far too many weddings where the bride and the Maid of  Honor (MOH) have very different ideas of the duties and responsibilities of the MOH.  This creates misunderstanding, frustration and even ill feelings between what are often best friends.  This is not the time to add stress to the bride, or her MOH, so we wrote this series of articles for you for two reasons:

A Realistic Perspective

We are providing both the bride and Maid of Honor with a realistic idea of the bride’s expectations of the Maid of Honor (and vice versa).

Bride:
  • Brides, we suggest you read this series before you select your Maid of Honor and then genuinely assess if the person you have in mind for the job will be willing and able to fulfill her (or his) duties to meet your exceptions.   If not, you need to consider if you need these duties performed at all, and who will perform them.  There are no required duties for a MOH, just traditions and things to do.  You will want to plan who will do what. If it is important to you to have this individual by your side at the ceremony, then you will just need an alternate plan for the other duties that she will not or cannot assume.
Maid of Honor:
  • Maids of Honor, we suggest you read the series and honestly assess if you are enthusiastically willing  to assume these duties.  Being a truly incredible Maid of Honor can be expensive both in terms of time and money. (Average costs for a Maid of Honor in today’s weddings are between $2,000 and $3,000 and countless hours of preparation, advising, cheer-leading and more.)  It is much more than just showing up on the wedding day and holding the bride’s flowers during the ceremony. ( I know that is the fun part, but there is much work to be done before you get to that point.)  Honestly asses if you are ready and able for the work and expense of  being the Maid of Honor before you accept the position.
  • I know, you are saying “She asked, I have to accept”. But I assure you that your bride will prefer to know up front that this position is beyond what you can do rather than to have you accept and then fall short of her and your expectations or back out later.  It is a difficult conversation but one that should be had early.

A Detailed Checklist

To provide a detailed checklist of items and duties expected of the Maid of Honor.  The list of duties we provide is extensive and may be beyond what the Maid of Honor does in your area.  Each wedding is unique and you can select the duties you want your MOH to assume.  If you have selected your Maid of Honor (or even before if you have concerns that she will accept without understanding all that her duties entail) sit down and review the list  together.  You can decide together what the Maid of Honor will be responsible for and what will be handled by others in this wedding. (No other weddings matter.  Just the one, so stay focused on what you want).   Now you both have the same expectations and there is less chance of things slipping by undone, and hard feelings.

What is a Maid of Honor?

When we use the term Maid of  Honor, it is intended as a generic term for the individual who will serve as the bride’s  chief bridesmaid and support, both during the wedding planning and on the wedding day.  You will participate in planning, herding the bridesmaids, wiping tears, and being the sense of reason in many decisions.) Pretty awesome list of tasks, don’t you think?  May the title should be Wonder Woman, or  Best Woman. Let’start a new tradition!)

The term Matron of Honor is identical to Maid Honor with the exception that the Matron of Honor is married.  And before you ask, yes, many brides include both a Maid of  Honor and Matron of Honor in the wedding party,especially when they have married and unmarried sisters. It is up to you, just be sure you clearly delineate the duties of each to avoid overlap, forgotten duties,  and stepping on toes.

If you select a male for this honored position, all duties are the same, (possibly with the exception of helping you in the bathroom) and he is referred to as the Man of Honor.

Preparing to be an Awesome Maid of Honor

Start a notebook

Maid of Honor, MOH, Wedding Planning, Bridal PartyOne of the keys to being a successful Maid of  Honor is organization  You need to be able to support the bride when she is a little rattled or  forgets details, be in the right place at the right time, and  be prepared to take on the role of “go-to-person” for answers when someone does not way to ask the bride.

You will need a notebook or digital folders dedicated the wedding.  You should have a tabs/sections for the shower, bachelorette party and wedding planning ideas.  Include ones  for what the bride likes, those she wants to exclude (No chicken-dance at the reception?), and those you want to research further.  Add any other sections that will help you to be organized.  It helps to have everything in one place and at your fingertips when the bride calls.

  • Set up a section to jot down random notes and ideas, things you need to remember and reminders.
  • Include a calendar, so you can note important dates you and the bride agree upon, and any meeting, etc. you will need to attend.  You may also want to include the bride’s schedule so you will know when she is  not available.
  • Record the contact information for each bridesmaid.  You will need to follow up with them about dress appointments, pre-bridal parties, and an entire host of things.
  • Record information about the best time to contact them and their preferred method of communication – a call, text, email, message, etc.
  • Be sure to establish a primary contact where you should look for all answers concerning any children in the wedding.  You do not want to get caught in the middle of disagreeing parents.  Then never go to the other parent for an answer. You’ll be amazed how much stress this removes for you and the bride.

Set up a Wedding Only Email Address

Maid of Honor, MOH, Wedding email, bridal partyWhen you set up a separate email address for wedding planning communication, you will be able to focus your time  on wedding planning when you need to do so, and ignore it when you do not.  You will also find that vendors and others who do not know you will respond quicker when they see the association with the wedding.

Use soemthing like MOH-MielkeWedding@gmail.com   or Rita_BoyleMielkeWedding@gmail.com to quickly identity that you are part of the wedding.  This reminds vendors and those you do not know you why you are emailing them and they will respond more quickly.

You will be more comfortable signing up for wedding related emails without getting swamped in your regular email.  You can cancel the address when you no longer need it after the wedding. It’s a great organizer and time saver and it’s free.

Suggest to the bride that your wedding email address be included on the wedding website and provide it to vendors as a backup and to address questions you can respond to.

Assemble An Emergency Wedding Day Kit

Maid of Honor, MOH, Wedding planning, Bride, The emergency wedding day kit contains last minute items the bride and bridal party may need on the wedding day.  You can purchase  pre-maid kits, but it is also an opportunity to personalize your kit for your bride. (it makes a great shower gift too.)

We are currently compiling a separate article on Wedding Day Emergency Kits, and will post it when complete.  If you want to be sure to receive a copy sign up for our email notifications at the bottom of this article.    Check out this great bag for your kit-personalize it too. 

 

Prepare Your Toast to the Bride and Groom for the Reception

It is so tempting to wait until the last minute to create your toast.  Major Mistake.  You will be so busy in the days of leading up to the wedding you will end up postponing until the last minute.  You, the bride, and the guests will quickly see that you did not dedicate time and effort  it takes to write an awesome toast worthy of your bride.  Now is the time.

Don’t just  think about it, actually take the time to jot down thoughts, think about the tone you want to have (funny, sentimental, etc.) and get it all written down.  Have your speech prepared in advance. You can update and change as the wedding draws closer.  (Having the foundation is a major stress reliever for you.) You really will not have the time after the rehearsal or on the morning of the wedding to prepare the heartfelt message you want to deliver. (That is when most poorly thought out Maid of Honor and Best Man speeches are written.)  Enough said.  Get out your pen.

The Series – What The Future Holds for You as the Maid of Honor

This is the end of Part 1- Preparing to be an Awesome Maid of Honor.  It is the beginning of your journey as a Maid of  Honor.

In Part 2 we will address your role as Maid of Honor during the wedding planning phase.  To be sure you get the article when it is published, be sure to sign up for our email notifications below.

Part 3 will address your role as Maid of Honor on the day of the wedding before the ceremony. (Lots to do here, so don’t this one.)

Part 4 will include your role in the ceremony and reception.

We also plan to publish an article with your ideas, suggestions, helps and hints about your bridal party. Just email to us  or send in the comment section below.

There you’ll have it, all you need to know about being an awesome bridesmaid.  Please be sure to follow the entire  series.

We Want to Hear From You

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This series is for for you – the bride and Maid of Honor.  We also know that you have great ideas that will help others on their wedding  journey. And would like to hear from you.  Please share your ideas to help other brides  and  Maids of Honor.   We would like to share your tips and ideas –  things that work for you; OOPs! -things you wish you skipped; or something you wish you knew earlier. Please share in the comments box below or email your suggestions to us.  If we use your idea in a future article we will give you credit (and thanks) for the idea. (Send a picture by email and we will include that too.)

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Ring Warming Wording – Creating a New Wedding Tradition – Part 2

In the Ring Warming Ceremony your wedding rings are “warmed” forever by your guests. Guests impart the well wishes, prayers and their love for you onto your wedding rings. This is an extremely personal way to include  your guests in your wedding. The ring warming wording conveys the meaning of your ceremony to your guests and extends your invitation for them to participate.

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You will find the details and “how-to’s” in our first post Ring Warming Ceremony -(Part 1) – Including Your Guests in Your Ceremony.  (But, don’t worry, we added at the end of this post, so you can read it later.)  In this post, the second in the series, we provide sample ring warming wording.  Feel free to use as written and you can certainly modify them for your own wedding if  you choose.

First, let’s briefly recap your  Ring Warming Ceremony options.  There are two primary ways to include a ring warming ceremony in your wedding.  (And, check out Bonus Idea at end the end of  this article.  It is brand new for us and you.)

Ring Warming Wording for Within Your Wedding Ceremony

Near the beginning of your wedding ceremony (usually after the welcome when everyone is seated), your officiant  introduces the ring warming to your guests.  The ring warming wording he/she explains that your rings will be passed through the guests.  He/she  also invites each guest to participate.  As the ring are passed, each guest holds the rings, says a silent prayer/blessing/warm thought for your marriage, and then passes them to the next guest.

The rings will be passed as the officiant continues with the wedding until the time for the ring exchange.

Before Guests Enter – Ring Warming Wording 

There are practical limitations to a ring warming passing of the rings.  There is simply not enough time to pass the rings to everyone at a large wedding.  You can address this by:

  1. limiting the ring warming to family and the bridal party, or
  2. having the guests warm your rings as they enter the ceremony area and reference it during your ring exchange.
  3. See Bonus at end of this article for brand new idea.

You will find detailed information on both options in our post Ring Warming Ceremony -(Part 1) – Including Your Guests in Your Ceremony.  Here we offer your ring warming wording.

Ring Warming Wording

During Your Ceremony – Passing the Rings

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Version 1

Officiant says:

(Bride) and (Groom) invite you to participate in their wedding by passing their wedding rings among you.  As the rings are passed to you, please take a few moments to warm them with your wishes, hopes, and blessings, for (Bride) and (Groom).  Your silent prayer or wish for their future together will be embedded in the rings which (Bride and Groom) will wear throughout their life together.  Through your participation in (Bride and Groom’s) ring warming, these rings become a symbol, not only of (Bride and Groom’s) love of each other, but also of your love and the support you have shared with them on their wedding day.

Version 2

Officiant says:

(Bride and Groom) invite you to participate in the passing of their rings.  You will pass the wedding rings among each other and warm them with your wishes, prayers, and blessings for Bride and Groom  As you hold the rings, please say a silent wish or prayer for (Bride and Groom), their marriage and for their future together. (Add Instructions for how rings will be passed.)

Version 3

Ring Warming Wording – Limited Participants- Family, Bridal Party

Officiant says:

It is widely believed that precious metals hold energy. The more durable the object the more the energy will be absorbed. These rings are made from(Include metal(s) rings are made from) which makes them perfect for capturing the energy of your love and support for (Bride) and (Groom) on their wedding day.

I invite (family/the wedding party-whomever your select*)  to pass the rings between one another and to warm the precious metal with your wishes, prayers, and blessings for (Bride) and (Groom).

*You can use this version by using “everyone”, instead of family, etc. and deleting the next paragraph.

As they pass the rings, I ask that all present  extend a silent wish or prayer for (Bride and Groom) that may support them in them as a couple, for their marriage, and their future together.

(Rings are passed then returned  to handed to the officiant before the ring exchange)

During the Ring Exchange

For Versions 1, 2, 3 above, the officiant says the follow when introducing the ring exchange:

(Bride and Groom) these, your rings, now contain within their precious metal, that which is priceless – the love and care of your family and friends.  As you wear your rings let them remind  you that you will always have this community of friends and family to support you and your marriage.

Continue with Ring exchange wording

Ring Warming Ceremony Before the Wedding

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For larger weddings, (usually over 50 guests), you may opt to have your ring warming as guests enter the ceremony area.

Place the rings on a table at the entrance to the ceremony.

Rings can be in a box, a beautiful dish, affixed to a pillow or similar object or even tied with ribbons and hanging so that guests can see and touch them as they enter. (It is best to have them secured so they will not roll away if dropped.)

Place a small sign on the table briefly explaining the ring warming ceremony and inviting guests to participate.

Ring Warming Wording for Sign

Option  1

Ring Warming Ceremony

Before you enter, please take a moment to participate in the warming of (Bride) and (Groom’s) wedding rings.

Touch/hold these rings for a moment.  Warm them with your love and make a silent wish or pray for (Bride) and (Groom) for the life together as husband and wife.

Option 2

Our Ring Warming

Please take a moment to warm our wedding rings with your love, support and well wishes (blessing and prayers).  When we exchange these rings in our ceremony, they will carry not only the promises we make to each other, but also the love and support from each of you

Love,

(Bride) and (Groom)

 

You may want a ring attendant present at the ring warming table as this ceremony is seldom seen at weddings.  Your attendant may need familiarize guests with the ceremony and answer any questions.  The attendant can also facilitate the movement of guests into the ceremony. (This job is not for a ring bearer.)

Before Ring Exchange, Officiant Incorporates the Ring Warming into Your Ceremony:

Officiant says:

As you entered the ceremony earlier today, you saw (bride) and (groom’s) wedding rings.  You are an important part of their lives and the community of family and friends here to support them as they begin their new life journey together.  (Bride) and (groom) asked that you warm their rings by touching them and placing your blessing and well wishes into the rings.

It is now time for (bride) and (groom) to exchange these rings as a symbol of their love and commitment to each other.

These rings also contain the love and support for (Bride) and (Groom’s ) marriage that you embedded in them during the ring warming.  (Bride) and (Groom) thank you for sharing your love and will wear these rings as a symbol of their love for each other and the love you have shared with them on their wedding day

Version 5

Ring Warming Ceremony – Including Your Children

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Family Ring Warming

The ring warming ceremony is a wonderful way to include your children in your wedding.  You can include young children who are becoming part of a blended family , or if adult children can also be included to signify their support of the marriage.

Before the exchange of rings, the officiant invites the children (by name) to come forward. After they have gathered

The officiant says:

(Name Children), Your Mom and Dad(or other appropriate wording) ask that each of you hold these wedding rings for a moment, warming them with your love, and blessing/sharing your good wishes for their marriage, before passing them on.

While the children are imparting their wishes to the wedding rings, I ask everyone present to silently send to (bride) and (groom) your best wishes (and blessings) 

After children pass rings – continue –

Children(by name), family and friends, you have added your love and support of this marriage.  As (Bride and Groom) wear these rings they will be an outward sign of their love for each other and the love you have shared with them on their wedding day.

Bonus Idea :

As we were writing this article, I officiated at a wedding where the couple chose to have the Ring Warming between their first look and the wedding ceremony.  I love this idea.  This ceremony could be  performed at the Wedding Rehearsal or Dinner.  Actually it can occur at any time when close family and friends are gathered.  Here is our version of this ceremony.  We hope you like it.

Before the wedding, the couple gathers with their wedding party, close family and friends.  If the officiant is in attendance, you can ask him/her to lead the ceremony.  Otherwise select someone to lead  the ceremony or the bride and groom can do so themselves. (The following is written for the officiant, but can be easily adapted.)

Everyone gathers in a circle with the bride and groom.

Ring Warming Wording

The officiant says:

(Bride) and  (groom) are inviting you to participate in their ring warming ceremony by passing the rings amongst you.  As you accept the rings, please take a few moments to warm them with your wishes, hopes, and blessings for (Bride) and (Groom) and pass them to the next person. You may impart your wishes silently or speak them to bride and groom as you share. Your wishes and blessing for (Bride )and (Groom’s) future together will be embedded in  the rings they will wear throughout their life together.  Through your participation in (Bride and Groom’s) ring warming, these rings become a symbol, not only of (Bride and Groom’s) love of each other, but also of your love and the support you have shared with them on their wedding day.

Rings are passed to all participants and returned to the couple.

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Wedding Ring Exchange at the Ceremony

On the wedding day before the ring exchange, the officiant continues. He/she asks for the rings, then said:

Last night at the rehearsal dinner (insert appropriate language), (Bride) and (Groom) gathered for the Warming of the Rings.  In the ring warming, (Bride) and (Groom’s ) wedding rings were passed among the guests in attendance  and each guest  was asked to impart their prayers, blessings and well wishes into the rings.   Before  (Bride) and (Groom ) exchange their rings, they also ask that you silently impart your blessing on the rings as well.  Please take a few moments now, to send your best wishes to (Bride and Groom). Pause while guests send wishes, then continue with the exchange of rings.

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Wedding Anxiety and Stress – Part 4 in Series of Stress Relief

This is Part 4 in our series about relieving wedding anxiety and stress – feelings that are all too common for brides when planning their weddings.  We have attached links to the earlier posts at the bottom of this post and hope you will read and share them.

Realistic  Expectations Eliminate Your Wedding Anxiety 

Be realistic about your wedding  goals and expectations.  Foremost, are they a fantasy, or something that you can realistic achieve?  Are they manageable considering your timeline, budget, venue, etc.? When you decide you can achieve them, create a plan and go for it.  Likewise, when you know ideas are beyond your bounds, don’t stress yourself by comparing your wedding to a photo-shoot you saw in a magazine or online.  Wedding anxiety and stress are often rooted in unrealistic fantasy.

Wedding planning is filled with images of fairy tale weddings that are beyond many of us. (Did you know that many of the weddings in bridal magazines and online are not even real weddings?  I know, I was bummed when I learned that.  However, it does make me feel better about the real weddings I officiate because none of them are as over-the-top as the magazines and I am working with real people.)

Be realistic in terms of time, money, and your own abilities.  Are you going to be in the frame of mind to enjoy your wedding when it arrives, or are you going to be a hot-mess from the planning that created your wedding anxiety and stress?  Your choice.  Choose wisely.

Staying Hydrated Relieves Wedding Anxiety 

Drink lots of water and herbal teas.  Mint tea soothes indigestion, heartburn, gas and stomachache, and is awesome for calming bridal nerves and relieving stress. (The effect is magnified when you take a few moments to relax and sip your tea rather than guzzling it on the run.)  Carry a small thermos when attend planning meetings or are performing lengthily planning tasks.  A few sips of water or tea will make wash the wedding anxiety away.

Furthermore, health experts tell us that drinking water gives a radiant, healthy, younger-looking complexion, in addition to reducing stress.

Win – Win.

The Power of Scent – Slowly Inhale and Feel Wedding Anxiety Vanish

Aromatherapy is the use of scents to treat your moods and an effective stress reliever.  Burning a scented candle or using essential oils can reduce your feelings of stress and elininate wedding anxiety.  It is also an effective way to improve sleep.

These are some of the most calming scents:

  • Lavender
  • Roman chamomile.
  • Orange or orange blossom.
  • Sandalwood
  • Geranium

Bonus Tip: 

If you don’t have a candle or oils, peel and eat an orange.  The scent will have the same short-term effect as orange oils.  Keep the peels close by for a few hours and give them a twist to release more the natural oils.  It’s unbelievable, how well this works.

Exercise

Physical activity is one of the best ways to relieve wedding anxiety.  When you walk, jog, stretch or participate in your activity of choice,  your body releases endorphins. Because endorphins make you happy,  you feel better about yourself, and are less anxious.  Works like magic!

Remember you must plan and schedule your exercise.  It does not just happen and is one of the first things people tend to give up when they get busy.  Make an exercise date with yourself (and a friend). Be sure to keep it.

Chew Gum

Believe it or not, chewing gum is a quick and easy wedding anxiety buster.  There are many theories about why it works. One suggests that chewing gum creates brain waves that simulate relaxation, another is that chewing promotes blood flow to the brain.  One study says the harder people chew, the greater the stress reduction.  Not sure why it works, but apparently it does, so chew as you will.

Create Your Vision Board

A vision board or dream board is a powerful tool that helps to narrow your wedding wants by making choices. You will be able to see the big picture, and how everything fits together, so you can lay out a plan of how to reach your goal and dreams.   A realistic plan is a major wedding anxiety reliever.

When you see your wedding in its entirety, you can plan the steps you need to get there.  You are taking the edge off your wedding anxiety and avoiding unexpected surprises when wedding elements conflict. Your vision board creates a series of stepping stones, so you can see your way to get what you want for your wedding.  Wedding anxiety and stress – Poof. Gone.

Three Deep Breaths

When you feel anxious, stressed or overwhelmed, take three slow deep breaths – in through your nose. Then three deep exhales – out  through your mouth.  Repeat as many times as needed throughout your day to relieve your stress and anxiety.  It seems to simple to be true.  Trust me it is a game changer – you just have to remember the exercise when you are anxious or  stressed.

Change Your Mindset

It is easy to become overwhelmed and as a result a bit depressed when you are planning your wedding.  Details seem to be endless and you are constantly called on to make decisions. Can your say Overload?

You are going to have to practice self-love (OK, most people will call it being self-centered, but it is not), and put yourself first.  Learn  to say “No”, when you may prefer to agree, and even step on a few toes.  (We’re not talking bridezilla here, just being able to kindly and pleasantly say “No” when an idea is presented that you really don’t want for your wedding.) Be open to new ideas and making important  decisions about what you want – and yes, the results do fall squarely on your shoulders.

Furthermore, give yourself pep talks.  Talk positively to yourself.   (Yep, I mean right out loud.)

Yes! Yes! Yes!

When I get up in the morning, the first thing I do is shout Yes! Yes! Yes! while pumping my fist in the air.  It gets my blood flowing and starts my day with a can-do attitude.  That may be too much for you, but promise me you will at least try it once, before you pass judgement,

Believe you can make the wedding of your dreams happen, and you will be surprised how quickly your positive outlook will impact your actions and those of others.

Henry Ford is responsible for one of my favorite quotes.  He said:  “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right.”

Old Henry really knew what he was talking about – not only did he create the first assembly line for using standardized parts for making cars (It also works great if you are doing DIY wedding crafts – standardize and simplify, works every time.)  he also understood that what we think about ourselves and our own abilities has the biggest impact on how we face a situation and the stress we will feel.

Wedding anxiety and stress will be a distant memories when you have a positive outlook about what you and others can do. “Yes, I can.”

Get Plenty of Rest

There really is no way around this.  Lack of sleep affects your physical health and contributes to increased wedding anxiety. If you are not sleeping well at night or were up very late, it is OK to schedule a quick power-nap in your day.

When I am home on a weekend, I schedule a nap into my Saturday or Sunday afternoon.  It is surprising the big difference a short nap makes and how much more productive I am when I wake up and get back to my wedding planning.

Celebrate Your Daily Successes

Finally, before you fall asleep at night, think of three things that went right with your day or that you feel grateful for.

I keep a pad beside my bed to jot them down with the date.   I call it my “TahDah” list.  You know like on TV when they say “TahDah” and someone takes a bow.

We all have “To Do” lists that help us remember what needs to be done.  I also have my “TahDah” list so I can remember and celebrate what I have accomplished.   Make your own list.  They are a fantastic way to focus on successes and when things are not going so well, to look back and see all that you have accomplished.  It is an awesome way to conclude the day, by putting everything in perspective and reminding me there is no need to stress. You’ve got this.

Thank You

wedding planning stress, bride, wedding, wedding anxietyFor those who read Part 1-3 of this wedding stress relief series thanks for lighting up my inbox.  I love hearing from you and appreciate that you are sending comments and personal stress relievers that work for you.  Thank You.  I (and all the brides reading this) appreciate that you took the time to share.  I look forward to reading more ideas and comments and am working on the article to include them. If you have a tip to share, please email me at: rita@ceremoniestolove.com .  Don’t forget to include a picture and we’ll post that too (with your permission, of course. )

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Ring Warming Ceremony (Part I) – Including Guests In Your Ceremony

Warming of the Rings

A ring warming ceremony is a meaningful way to include your guests in your marriage ceremony.  Each guest holds the wedding rings and silently wishes the couple good luck in their marriage, places their blessing on the rings or offers words of encouragement and love to the couple.  Letting everyone hold your rings and bless them is a very powerful feeling for your guests and a memorable  way for  them to be connect with you and your wedding.Ring warming, wedding, ceremony, including guests

Explaining Ring Warming to Guests

Most of your guests will not have seen this tradition included in a wedding, so you will need to inform them about how the ceremony works and their part in it.

  1. For a “passing” ring warming, have the officiant announce and explain the ceremony immediately following the welcoming to the ceremony.
  2. For an “entrance” ring warming, place a small sign on the table with the rings. You can also have your Ring Attendant welcome guests and invite them to participate.
  3. Another option is to include a brief note in the invitations, explaining the ring warming, the guest instructions, and giving guests an opportunity to prepare their thoughts.

Who Takes Part in a Ring Warming?

It is completely up to you who participates.  You can have all guests participate, limit it to the bridal party, or have a few select guests.  We’ve included ideas for both small intimate wedding – where the ring warming can be easily incorporated with passing of the rings , to those for large weddings -where all (or selected) guests participate.

Immediate Family and Wedding Party Only

Many brides prefer to keep the ring warming small, even in a large wedding.  You can include limit your ceremony to parents, grandparents, your children, or the wedding party.

Reserve spaces in the first two or three rows of your venue for the ring warming participants. Have the officiant explain the ceremony to all guests, then pass the rings to the select few.  He/she can also invite the guests to silently pass their best wishes/blessing to the bride and groom while the rings are passed, or pause at the end and hold the rings aloft for all to see and invite them to send their wishes forward at that time.

Including Your Children

Ring warming as a family is a beautiful way to have children share their love for the couple and show their support of the marriage.

Ring Warming During the Ceremony  

The wedding rings are passed from guest to guest during the ceremony, receiving well wishes and blessings from each guest.  When planning this type of ring warming, the biggest consideration is usually the time it will take your guests to pass the rings.

If you have a large wedding, it will be difficult to have everyone touch and warm your rings unless your ceremony is very long.  Some guests will want to take their time with the rings and will not want to feel under pressure to hurry.  You should allow 15 – 30 seconds per guest.  So, with 50 guests you will need to allow between 12 and 25 minutes for your rings to be passed.

Passing the rings is best for ceremonies with a small number of guests (under 50 people) or selecting a small number to guests to participate and including the others verbally.

Ask the officiant to explain the ceremony, its meaning, and how it works to the guests at the beginning of the ceremony (immediately after the welcome is an appropriate time).

Have a plan for passing the rings – and tell guests how it will progress. (see more about creating your plan later.)

Don’t forget to include your wedding party in your ring warming.  This can awkward logistically especially for the bridesmaids who are already holding the flowers.  An alternative is to have them impart their wishes/blessing before the ceremony.  (Just be sure to have officiant announce that your wedding party participated before their entry).

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Avoid lost, dropped, or rolling rings

  • Place them in small organza bag or a box (one box for both works best.)
  • Tie the rings together with a piece of ribbon
  • Place them on a pillow –a ring bearer’s pillow works great for passing the rings

Place a small tag on/with the rings explaining what guests should do (you would be surprised how many people forget between when they receive instructions, and when the rings are passed to them.)  Something like this will help:

  • Share Your Love and Pass It On
  • Please silently bless/wish us luck and pass our rings on to the next guest. Signed (Bride) and Groom)
  • Please warm our rings with the love in your heart.

Creating a Ring Warming Path Plan 

To create the path your rings will travel, decide where you want the rings to be at the end of the ring warming ceremony – in the front of the venue or the back.

If you want your ring bearer to bring the rings to the front of the venue following the warming, you will want them to be at the back, when the ring warming is complete. (Not recommended for young ring bearers)

If you have a single aisle venue, and you want your rings to end up at the front, start passing them at the back of the venue.

If you have two aisles, and want them to end up at the front, start at the front, have them passed down one side, and up the other  ending in the front.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure that you not only plan the path of your rings’ journey, but walk or draw it out, so you can see  the results.  Don’t assume.  It may not work out as you visualize.

Your officiant should clearly  explain the path to your guests, to avoid confusion as the rings are passed.

Be sure to allow adequate time for the rings to be passed and in place when the ring exchange begins.  If time is an issue, here is an alternate warming ceremony that works well for larger weddings.

Ring Warming Before the Ceremony

Guests can participate in the ring warming as they enter the venue.

  • Have the rings displayed on a table at the ceremony entrance.  Ask guests to touch the rings and warm them as they enter the ceremony.
  • Place rings near the guest book, but not so close that they will create congestion as guests enter. A little distance allows multiple guests to be performing the functions at the same time.
  • Have your ring attendant beside the table to explain the ring warming and invite guests to participate.
  • Create a clear path for guests to sign the guest book, warm rings, and enter the ceremony. It will eliminate confusion.
  • Having the ring warming before the ceremony works best for larger weddings – 50 guests.  It can be used for any size wedding.
  • Securely place the rings  on a pillow or in a small box, so guests can touch the rings. There is no need to them to pick up and handle them.  You want them to be available to all guests, not held while someone gets distracted or is having a conversation.
  • Plan ahead who will be responsible for transferring the rings to the individual(s) responsible for bringing them to the ceremony. Work out the details in advance, including the timing.  This will be a last-minute task.  Have a definite cut off time.  Sadly, last minute stragglers will not be able to participate in the ring warming.  This cannot be avoided to keep your ceremony on schedule.  (see Ring Attendant)

Ring Attendant

It’s a good idea to put someone in charge of the rings during.  The Ring Attendant will keep an eye on the rings, facilitate their movement when passed, and ensure they are in place for the ring exchange.

Your attendant should be someone old enough to handle any issues that occur.  (This is not the job for a young ring bearer.) If you have your ring warming at the entrance, the attendant explains the ring warming to your guests and invites them to participate.

If you are passing the rings among your guests, it is important to keep them moving so that they will be in place for the ring exchange.

Your ring attendant will make sure that the passing of the rings runs smoothly, picking up the rings if they fall, nudging guests if they stall, helping in passing rings across seating gaps, as well as when they move across the aisles.

The Ring Attendant position is ideal for an older child/teenager.

Ring Bearer

If you are having a ring bearer, and want to include the ring warming ceremony:

  1. Provide substitute rings for the ring bearer to carry and have him/her enter the ceremony as part of the bridal party. (In most weddings young children fill the ring bearer role. Few brides entrust their rings to the children to carry.  Therefore using alternate disposable rings is an accepted custom in all weddings.)
  2. If you want the ring bearer to carry the actual rings, have him/her wait at the back of the venue after the bride enters and bring the rings forward after they are passed among guests (works best with older ring bearers.)

Bonus Idea – Including Mom

One of my favorite additions to the ring warming ceremony is including the couple’s mothers.   I add this to my own weddings and have never seen it at weddings other than those I perform.  My gift to you – feel free to use for your own wedding.

After the rings have passed among guests, have them returned to the Mothers.  The Mother of the Groom will hold the bride’s ring; the Mother of the Bride will hold the groom’s ring. For the ring exchange, the mothers stand and present the ring to their child. This is spacial way of welcoming the new bride/groom to the family.

The rings can also be returned to the best man if you prefer to keep this tradition in your ceremony.

 

Pre-Wedding Ring Warming

If you are creating a intimate ring warming, with just your family members and the bridal party, you can also warm the rings at your rehearsal dinner and have a symbolic, ring warming at your wedding.

At the wedding have the Maid of Honor and Best Man hold the rings and represent your guests as the officiant invites your guests to silently warm the rings with their blessings and wishes.  This does not have quite the emotional ties for guests as actually touching the rings, but is a way to include all guests in a shorter time period than passing the rings.

 

So now, you have a new tradition to include in your wedding.  Your guests will feel they participated, not just attended your ceremony.

In Part II, we will provide sample wordings for your Ring Warming.

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Recognizing Wedding Stress  ( Stress Relief Series Part 3)

Recognizing Wedding Stress  ( Stress Relief Series Part 3)

It has been exciting for me to read your emails from art 1 and Part 2 of our Wedding Stress series.    (If you have not read the articles,  that’s OK, we included the links below.)  I read all of your comments. (Thanks for some awesome stress relief ideas.   You have already mastered recognizing wedding stress and dealing with it! – Double Win.  Furthermore, you will see them in future articles.)

I listened to you.  Several brides, including Melody from LA, asked me to address recognizing wedding stress.  She said “I don’t even realize how stressed I am until later. I wish I could see it when it happens, so I could get over it and concentrate on all the good things about my wedding”.   Similarly, Others  asked for advice recognizing wedding stress and  how to focus on the positive things and knowing when to let go. While this probably should have been the first article in series, (sorry for the misstep on my part) it is never too late for me to respond to your requests. You asked for it.  So, here it is:  Recognizing Wedding Stress  (Stress Relief Series Part 3).

Types of Wedding Stress 

recognizing wedding stress, wedding, bride, planning stressFirst, let’s step back and look at the types of wedding stress you will encounter. We left out technical/scientific terms, so if you are a stress expert, please forgive the omission   Why did we bypass them? Because, brides asked for help, not intimidating psycho-babble and all those heavy explanations just stress me more.

While experts use a wide variety of terms to describe stress,  there are three main types of stress in its simplest form. Because we experience two and usually all three of them as wedding stress, it is important to understand which is affecting you when you are feeling stressed.

Why does it matter what type of stress we are experiencing? When we understand the different stress types we are prepared to use them in a positive manner.  Likewise, when a positive response is not an option, we  may be able to reduce and hopefully eliminate the stressor by our reaction to it.

Our emotional response to a stressful situation is the key to successful stress management.  You’ll find lots ideas and advice in the other articles.  So, for now, concentrate on understanding your wedding stress.

1. Recognizing Wedding Stress We Can’t Control

We usually associate this stress with negative life changing experiences such as loss of a job, death of a loved one, or major health issue.  Although a wedding is not a negative life changing event, you the bride may also feel out of control when dealing with people and situations in your wedding planning that you simply cannot avoid. (Such as  – a MIL who does not approve of your reception plans, an unpleasant vendor  you  contracted and cannot afford to cancel, or an overbearing “helpful” friend.)

Certainly, many experts will tell you that these situations are all avoidable. Hence, they advise that you can just walk away or ignore them.   And in theory, they are correct.  However, in the real life of wedding stress when  you don’t have an unlimited budget (few of us do), don’t want to separate your future husband from his family (lifetime nightmare) , or lose a lifelong friend who loves you and believes she is helping,  you will have to deal with these situations without being able to control them.  You can control how you react and how stressed you become, but the situation itself and how others act is beyond your control.

2.  Natural Stress

Natural stress affects all brides.  No doubt, you feel it when you set your wedding goals or push yourself outside your comfort zone.  Natural stress is usually associated with anticipation of or reaction to an event in our lives.  It is those “butterflies in your stomach” that affect most of us when we have to give a speech, or watch our children play sports, or think about standing in front of 100 guests and saying our wedding vows.  It is your body’s way of telling you that you care and that what is happening is important to you.  Then adrenaline kicks in, energy flows, and your body is ready to take on anything (Enter Super Bride!!)

Above all, the key to dealing with natural stress is to understand that your reactions are good, to recognize it when it appears and use the excess energy it creates.  It is OK to have butterflies about your wedding planning.  It shows it is important to you (as it should be).   Wedding planning is a new experience and you are probably way outside your comfort zone.

Remember, the object is not to get ride of the butterflies. The object is to have them fly in formation and work for you.  It takes a little practice.  You got this.

 

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3.   Recognizing Wedding Stress We Can Control

For me, this is usually self-inflicted stress.  Admittedly, we do not realize we were creating our own stress or that we could control it.  We were so busy getting things done and looking to other people as the ones who are creating the stress  that we do not realize we are the problem.  Furthermore, stress we can control is often small things such as being late to an appointment, having a argument over a tiny detail that really does not matter, or getting upset when something does not go exactly as we planned.    You are the only one who can control how much you stress over these small daily issues.  Remember it is often your reaction to a situation, not  the event itself that is creating your stress.

For example, assume you have your final dress fitting appointment.  Because of a major traffic jam you can’t avoid  you are going to be late.  (Don’t you feel the wedding stress just thinking about it?)  What will you do?  Of course, you will call and explain why you are late and when you expect (hope) to arrive.  You deal with the realities of the situation.  That is a given.

Now Deal With the Stress

What’s  next?  Controlling stress is all about choices.  Option 1 – Sit in your car wating for the jam to  clear and stewing over  the situation.  “I wonder what some stupid driver did to create this mess?”, “I have important things to do, and don’t have time for  this.”  It’s not fair, why did this happen now?”  “#$%#$%$#.”  Remind you of anyone?

Option 2 – Accept that it is what it is. Take out your planning book and update it. Do that piece of research on the internet you have been meaning to get to. Listen to music.  Read a book.  Relax and rest for a few minutes.  Sound like a better option?

Remember, recognizing wedding stress you can control it is not about the situation, it is how you react to it that creates your wedding stress.  Easy,peasy when you know what to look for.

Have You Ever Been Bit By an Elephant? – Recognizing Wedding Stress for What It Is

It is the little things that often stress us most – especially when they keep piling up.  I am reminded of the old question: “Have your ever been bit by an elephant?”  Most people laugh and emphatically say “NO”.  “Well have you ever been bit by a mosquito?”  More laughter, and “Of course.”  That is how it is dealing with wedding stress.  We spend our time worrying about being stressed over the big things for the wedding – while most of them go smoothly, so we will never be bitten by an elephant.  All the while, the little incidents, the tiny stressors we can avoid (yes, the mosquitoes) are buzzing around annoying us and creating stress that keeps accumulating until POP! You know better than anyone what happens when you reach your maximum stress point (Not a pretty thought is it?)

Recognizing Wedding Stress – The Physical Signs 

This comprehensive list of the signs of stress in general was created by The American Institute of Stress.  It provides the effects to identify the impact wedding stress can have on you, physically and mentally.   (Don’t let reading the list stress you.  It can be daunting.  Hopefully you will not experience more than the lesser symptoms of stress in your wedding planning, if any.)

We included the entire list here (I know it is long, but they will not all apply to you.), not to stress you more, but to prepare you in recognizing the wedding stress you may face and eliminating it (or in the case of positive stress- make it work for you).  It is perfectly natural when you experience any/some/even all of these indicators.  Relax.  You need to stop and manage the stressor so you get back in control of yourself, your feelings, and your planning. Time to get things accomplished and enjoy your wedding planning.

Stress Symptoms

  • Frequent headaches, jaw clenching or pain
  • Gritting, grinding teeth
  • Stuttering or stammering
  • Tremors, trembling of lips, hands
  • Neck ache, back pain, muscle spasms
  • Light-headed, faintness, dizziness
  • Ringing, buzzing or “popping soundswedding party, dresses, bridal, recognizing wedding stress
  • Frequent blushing, sweating
  • Cold or sweaty hands, feet
  • Dry mouth, problems swallowing
  • Frequent colds, infections, herpes sores
  • Rashes, itching, hives, “goose bumps”
  • Unexplained or frequent “allergy” attacks
  • Heartburn, stomach pain, nausea
  • Excess belching, flatulence
  • Constipation, diarrhea, loss of control
  • Difficulty breathing, frequent sighing
  • Sudden attacks of life threatening panic
  • Chest pain, palpitations, rapid pulse
  • Frequent urination
  • Diminished sexual desire or performance
  • Excess anxiety, worry, guilt, nervousness
  • Increased anger, frustration, hostility
  • Depression, frequent or wild mood swings
  • Increased or decreased appetite
  • Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams
  • Difficulty concentrating, racing thoughts
  • Trouble learning new information
  • Forgetfulness, disorganization, confusion
  • Difficulty in making decisions
  • Feeling overloaded or overwhelmed
  • Frequent crying spells or suicidal thoughts
  • Feelings of loneliness or worthlessness
  • Little interest in appearance, punctuality
  • Nervous habits, fidgeting, feet tapping
  • Increased frustration, irritability, edginess
  • Overreaction to petty annoyances
  • Increased number of minor accidents
  • Obsessive or compulsive behavior
  • Reduced work efficiency or productivity
  • Lies or excuses to cover up poor work
  • Rapid or mumbled speech
  • Excessive defensiveness or suspiciousness
  • Problems in communication, sharing
  • Social withdrawal and isolation
  • Constant tiredness, weakness, fatigue
  • Frequent use of over-the-counter drugs
  • Weight gain or loss without diet change
  • Increased smoking, alcohol or drug use
  • Excessive gambling or impulse buying

Share Your Wedding Stress Relief Ideas

We  included a comment box at the end of each post.  If you have a wedding stress reliever that works for you, please share in the comment box or email me.  If we use your suggestion in a future article we will, with your permission, give you credit (and thanks) for the idea. (Send a picture by email and we will include your wedding or engagement picture too. )

I welcome your questions about anything wedding related and your suggestions for future articles.  Hugs.

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For those who read Part 1 and Part 2 of this wedding stress relief series thanks for lighting up my inbox.  I love hearing from you and appreciate that you are sending comments and personal stress relievers that work for you.  Thank You.  I (and all the brides reading this) appreciate that you took the time to share.  I look forward to reading more ideas and comments and am working on the article to include them . My email address: rita@ceremoniestolove.com

 

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Bride Stress – Wedding Stress Relief (Part 2 in Series)

I am so excited you found Wedding Planning Stress – Part 1 helpful.  (If you have not read it, I included a link below.)  The second in the wedding stress relief series is here for you:   Bride Stress – Wedding Stress (Part 2)

Bride stress on top of daily stresses can be overwhelming and take the joy out of planning for the most important day of your life.  It can be so intense that it impacts your health, happiness, and the joy of your wedding day.(I know at least some of you are already nodding your head in agreement.)  It does not have to be like that.

It upsets me when I see how so many brides experience bride stress to the point that they are unable to enjoy their wedding day.  When I hear a bride say “I’ll be so glad when this is over.” or “We should have eloped.”, my heart sinks.

Share Your Bride Stress Relief Ideas

As I mentioned, this is one of a series of articles.  You can return to  Wedding Planning Stress Relief – Part 1   later if  you have not read it.  I will also add a link at the bottom of this post for it and later articles as they are posted. (You can also sign up below to get them delivered to your email.)

We also included a comment box at the end of each post.  If you have a bride stress reliever that works for you, please share in the comment box or.  If we use your suggestion in a future article we will, with your permission, give you credit (and thanks) for the idea. (Send a picture by email and we will include that too.)

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For those who read Part 1 and have been lighting up my inbox sending comments and personal stress relievers that work for you , Thank You.  I (and all the brides reading this) appreciate your sharing and including pictures in your emails.  I look forward to seeing your ideas and comments  in future posts. My email address: rita@ceremoniestolove.com

 

Stop Expecting People to Live by Your Rules

You are the bride.  You are in charge.  It is YOUR wedding.  Agreed.  BUT… Dealing with unmet expectations is a huge source of stress for everyone. Be sure you set realistic expectations for yourself and for others. When you set your expectations, confirm that you fully communicate them, and the listener understands what you expect from them. Expecting people to fulfill your unspoken or misunderstood expectations is a sure way to get a dose of unwanted bride stress and strained relationships.

Expectations and disappointments often surface when dealing with your bridal party and point straight back to lack of communication..  Make sure to clearly (clear to them, not just you) communicate what you consider to be their “duties”.  Are you expecting them to be there for the entire week before the wedding, to help with your DIY projects, to spend more than they make in a week for their bridesmaid dress?  Be realistic, communicate, and discuss your expectations and their ability to meet them.  It is a major stress reliever when everyone has the same expectations.

Give people the opportunity to ask questions, make suggestions and even repeat back to you what they believe you are expecting from them based on what you said.  (I know, it sounds like overreacting at first, until they start talking, and you are amazed what you said was not what they heard.) Be calm and repeat until everyone has the same expectations before you start your planned task.

(In the instance of your bridesmaids, be prepared if they cannot meet your expectations, and plan how you will respond.  They may even decline the honor of being part of your wedding because of their own financial or life stressors.  Be kind. )

Take Time to Eat Properly –  Bride Stress – Gone 

When we get caught up in a major project like wedding planning, we tend to grab snacks and quick food on the run.

Stop and take the time to eat and to enjoy your food.  Like your mama said: Eat your fruits and vegetables.

According to an American Psychological Association (APA) survey, women are more than three times more likely than men to turn to comfort foods –  ice cream, cookies, and snacks – to ease stress.  It is  also common for brides  to deny themselves favorite foods because they’re trying to lose weight before the wedding.  Then under bride stress, the urge for these foods grows and the binge begins, followed by guilt and even more dieting. (Been there, done that.)

The key to avoiding bride stress eating is to not deprive yourself. Keep three or four healthy snacks on hand that you know you’ll probably want – nuts, if you like salty; string cheese, if you crave protein; a small piece of chocolate for something sweet (dark chocolate is best) – so you aren’t tempted to binge.

When you eat, be in the moment – focus on what the food looks like, how it feels in your mouth, and of course its smell and taste. Good food in proper amounts is a small distraction and a wonderful way to relieve bride stress and focus on the small joys of life and wedding planning.

Resist the habit of eating on the run, no matter how busy you feel.  The few minutes gained gulping down your food  (or not eating at all) are not worth the additional bride stress you feel when you skip this part of your day.  Sit down to eat in a place away from what is stressing you, preferably with people you enjoy being with, relax and enjoy.   You’ll be refreshed and ready to get back to wedding planning.

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Pray or Meditate – Gentle Bride Stress Relief

Countless people turn to spirituality for stress relief.  Studies  show it is physically relaxing as well as emotionally comforting and spiritually uplifting for those who pray or meditate.

If this area is important to you, now is the time, in the midst of the hustle bustle of wedding planning,  to refocus and enjoy the peace you find from praying or meditating.  Don’t just take the time – make the time  – to connect with your spiritual side.

Let Go of Perfect – Bride Stress #1 

I understand that this is your wedding.  You want (maybe even feel you need) everything to be perfect and if it is not, you have failed, and it was not worth it.  (Not true at all, but it’s the way many brides feel.)  So here is some tough love:

Let It Go! Stop making one more adjustment, adding one more detail, looking for things that  you “could”improve.  At the hundreds of weddings I have officiated, I have never attended one where everything went perfectly. ( Just spending more money and creating bride stress is no promise of a perfect wedding.)  Perfect weddings may exist, but probably only on Pinterest and in bridal magazines.

Nothing will create more bride stress in your planning and on your wedding day that insisting on perfection.  When something unplanned happens, (and it will) be grateful it is, in the big picture of the life ahead of you, minuscule – tiny – unimportant. Let it go!

Remember why you are planning your wedding – to marry the man of your dreams and start a new life together. (Your chartreuse napkins that are one shade off what you ordered is small “disaster” compared to a lifetime of happiness ahead of you, don’t you think?) And, I hope you will not be surprised to learn, that most wedding guests don’t notice the tiny things that go astray in your wedding unless you made a big issue of it.   I repeat.  Let it go!

BONUS Tip  Make yourself reminder notes and paste them everywhere you find yourself stressing- Tiny reminders.   Hugh Bride Stress Relief.  Here’s a  reminder image you can copy, paste and print.

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Prepare for Tomorrow

Nothing will stress you quicker than being unprepared.  Take a few minutes at the end of the day to make a written to-do list for tomorrow.  Think about what you will plan to accomplish and what you need to accomplish tasks.

When you start your morning, you’ll feel focused, in control, and comfortable that you can handle the day. You have set a positive tone for your day, which helps you get more accomplished without stress.  That nasty stress never even gets a foothold in your mind.  Magic!

Positive Energy – Bride Stress Disappears

It probably seems like an oversimplification to say that when we feel stressed we should remove ourselves from stressful situations.  (My sons say “Duh! Mom”. ) It really is that easy.  When we surround ourselves with supportive people who radiate positive energy, bridal stress disappears.

Avoid People Who Stress You Out

If someone in your wedding planning circle is a constant source of stress and you can’t turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person.  It is your wedding.

Think carefully about those who will be close to you during your planning and on your wedding day. A childhood friend who is always negative may not be the best choice for a bridesmaid. (Just sayin’.)

Don’t Over Commit – Guaranteed Bride Stress Dissolves

Planning a wedding is exciting and rewarding, but when you’re exhausted and overwhelmed, (Sorry, but at some point, it happens to all brides), you are not enjoying the experience.

Stop and prioritize  things you must do, things you can delegate to others, and those you can eliminate.  Cutting some of the most stressful or least necessary activities can do wonders for your bride stress levels.

Do you really have the skills and time to personally make 12 bridesmaid bouquets on the day before you wedding?

Do you really want to work two jobs for the next year so you can have a bigger reception?

It just may be time to step back, reflect  and include bride the stress factor in your decision.  Some things are just worth the stress or not meant to be.  Accept it and move on.

Transition Back to Real Life

When you have completed your planning tasks for the day, STOP.  Resist the urge to do one more thing.  Take time to transition back physically and emotionally to the real world that continues to exist outside of your wedding planning.  I understand how important your wedding is to you, but there is a entire world waiting for you including your family, friends and future husband who just want to spend quality time with you now – the one they love, not the over-stressed bride.

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Wedding Planning Stress Relief (Part 1)

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Wedding Planning Stress – Relief for Every Bride (Part 1)

We all experience stress on a regular basis, though the type and intensity can vary from minor challenges to major crises. When we add wedding planning stress on top of everything else in life,  it takes stress to a whole new level. (Not  a good way to level up!) It can become intense, and if  not managed, will take a toll on your health, happiness, and the joy of your wedding day. Every bride needs effective stress relievers to restore her inner peace and sustain physical health.wedding party, bridal party, planning stress bride, groom, bridesmaid, groomsmen

When we started working on this article, our goal was to provide a few tips and a bit of advice to brides to relieve wedding planning stress.  How hard can that be?  Well, the reality is there are a wide range of stress relievers (some we knew about, others new to us too).  Our research showed a couple of significant things that impact stress relief:

  1. Different stress relievers work for different people, and in different situations.
  2. You may not always be in the mood or able to practice your favorite stress reliever.  You need multiple options.

More to Come Soon

There are so many stress relievers available (all free – we are not selling medications, though it may be something to discuss with your doctor if your stress is extreme)  we could not share them in a single article. (And we only listed our favorites.)

So, we have created a series of wedding planning stress relief blogs (Five to start,  but they may grow with your help.) I’ll add the links to the bottom as each is posted. They are designed with versatility in mind and offer proven effective methods of stress relief.  They can be used in a variety of situations. Try them and see what works best for you.

Your Input Requested – Your Planning Stress Relief

We also included a comment box at the end of each post.  If you have a wedding planning stress reliever that works for you, please share in the comments box.  If we use your reliever in a future article we will, with your permission, give you credit (and thanks) for the idea. (Send a picture by email and we will include that too.)

Easy for Me to Say

I know that it is all well and good for me to say these things and tell you how to relieve your planning stress.  The reality is that each of our situations are different, and we all react to stress differently.  Some of you may even say you are not stressed.  Congratulations.  You are a lucky bride indeed.

Dealing with stress is very difficult and sometimes feels insurmountable, but you are very strong and very resilient.  You can make the wedding planning process an exciting journey.

So here we go.  We’ll start with a little background, then jump right in.  Don’t forget to check back as more advice and tips are posted and let us know what works for you. You got this!

Acknowledge That Planning Stress Is Real

budget, flowers, planning, wedding, planning stressStart dealing with wedding planning stress by acknowledging that you are experiencing it.  The first step to solving a problem is recognizing that you have one.  This may seem oversimplified, but it is an important first step.

For the bride who has been looking forward to planning her wedding for years, admitting to being stressed makes her feel weak and concerned that others will see it as an inability to manage the planning.  It  can be difficult to admit when stress becomes overwhelming, but the reality is that when you are stressed the people who are near and dear to you see it, even when you refuse to admit it to them or yourself.

Give yourself a break.  You are the  bride, not Superwoman.  You are adding wedding planning to what is probably already a hectic full lifestyle.  Take the time to take care of you.  Pause the planning when you need a break.  Seek advice  when you need it and ignore it when you did not ask.  Enjoy the experience and the memories you are making.

Treat Yourself! Chocolate – Poof! Planning Stress Gone

Oh, happy day, we now know that chocolate in moderation is good for us.  (Growing up believing that chocolate was “evil” was a huge stressor for me.)  Eating anything sweet, especially chocolate, curbs the production of the stress hormone, glucocorticoid.  That’s the nasty little hormone that makes us eat the whole bag of candy instead of just one. The delightful flavor of chocolate, even a single Hershey’s Kiss, makes stress evaporate like a puffy cloud on a sunny day.  And dark chocolate brings additional benefits too. I am so excited.

Recognize When You’re Stressed

It might seem obvious that you’d know when you’re stressed, but many brides spend so much time feeling frazzled when they are wedding planning, that they forget what it feels like when they are in balance – calm, alert and focused. Some signs you may be overly stressed include:Cheap Wedding Foods, Honeymoon, planning stress

  • Low energy,
  • Headaches,
  • Digestive issues,
  • Irritability,
  • Aches, pains, and tense muscles,
  • Chest pain and rapid heartbeat,
  • Insomnia,
  • Loss of sexual desire and/or ability.

Once a Day – Get Away From Planning Stress

Quietly begin your day with yourself, reflecting on the things that are right with your life and the world.  Think about the positive goals you have for the day.

When you spend 5-10 quiet minutes in the morning it establishes the tone for the rest of your day.  This is particularly important when you have a hectic and potentially stressful day ahead,  i.e. wedding planning.

Now, I must admit, I am a “jump up and go” type of  person, and it took me quite a while to train myself to slow down and enjoy my mornings.  (Experts tell us it takes 21 days to break or make a new habit, but it took me longer than that.)  It was a personal struggle and well worth the time I invested in creating this new habit that I continue today.

If you are simply not a morning person, you can take your break any time (even multiple times) during your day.  Find a place where you can be alone (without your cell phone) and clear your mind. Do whatever relaxes you: meditate, read a chapter of a novel, take a quiet walk, play with your cat, or sip tea.

It’s vital to take just a few minutes every day to allow your body to destress. It’s not how much time you allot but that you do this for yourself consistently that’s important.

Manage Your Time – Planning Stress Can’t Take Root

Having a few basic daily routines lowers the stress of larger projects – like planning your wedding.  Resist the urge to transform your entire life into “Wedding Planning” mode.

Experts tell us that the average bride spends a minimum of 15 hours per week in the three months immediately prior to the wedding on wedding planning and preparation.  That is a part time job!

So, how do you fit it all in?  Most people give up the little things of daily life that are important to them and keep them grounded, give up on sleep, or both. (Wrong answers.)

Do not give up your rituals – like a quiet cup of coffee, your exercise routine or spending quality (not wedding planning time) with your future husband.  You need these stress relievers.

There will be days when you must skip your favorite routines but make those days exceptions rather than the rule.

Instead of giving up what grounds you, schedule it into your planner and give it the priority it deserves.  We are talking about taking care of the bride, here.  What could be more important?

When someone asks for your time and you are planning to exercise, it is OK, to say “I’m sorry, I already have another commitment at that time”.  You do not  have to say “I  was planning on exercising”.  No one is responsible for how you utilize your time but you.  You do not have to explain it to others.  “I’m busy”. – Enough said.

Spend Time With Your Pet – George Is My Planning Stress Relief

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Dog owners report lower levels of stress than non-dog owners.  Interacting with our pet releases oxytocin, a natural brain chemical that relieves stress and promotes positive  thoughts.

A pet also relieves stress by keeping you active and providing companionship. Our dog George is one of the best stress relievers I have. Isn’t he precious?

Eat a Frog Every Morning – That is Planning Stress Relief?

Mark Twain brilliantly said that if the first thing you do in the morning is eat a live frog, you can go through the rest of the day knowing the worst is behind you. Now that is a true stress reliever!

Your frog is your worst task, and you should do it first thing in the morning. Make it a priority and get it out of the way.  In real life, do we do that? No! Instead we procrastinate until later, all the while the stress is creeping up, knowing that whatever the task, it is  looming over us waiting to be done.  Just do it.  Put on your big girl panties, make the dreaded phone call, finish addressing envelopes, decide on bridesmaids’ dresses – whatever it is that you dread doing – do it early in the day.

Surprise! The stress vanishes, and you see the dread was often worse than completing the task itself  Once I look back on the actual experience, it was not nearly as unpleasant as I made it in my mind.

Task complete.  Stress gone.  Enjoy the rest of your day.

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I would love to see your wedding and planning pictures and will share on my blog, and Pinterest with your permission.  Email them to me.  (Please.) 

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Buying Your Wedding Dress – What No One Told You

Wedding dress shopping can be fun, and exciting, and yes, a bit stressful.  We’ve gathered ideas and advice  -things that no one ever tells you –  that relieve the stress. Have the fun – you deserve it.

Be Prepared for Bridal Sizing 

The size of your gown in bridal sizing will usually be at least one or two sizes larger than your regular clothing.  Yes that’s right you will need a larger size than you usually wear, and so does every other bride.  It can be discouraging for the bride who shops by size and refuses to wear a larger size when nothing fits.

Resist the urge to buy the smaller size “you always wear” and fit into it.  You are not making a fair comparison and only you will suffer.

It is so much easier to just cut the size tag out if it really bothers you.  And remember that no one will know what size you are wearing other than you and your consultant (and she knows how to keep a secret).

Shop True to Your Bridal Size 

If you are already depressed by bridal sizing (you’ll need one or two sizes larger  than normal sizes) you will be setting yourself up for failure if you buy a dress that is too small because you plan to lose weight before your wedding day.  Unless you have a very long time before your wedding, losing weight is going to be difficult.  It is tough already, now consider the limited time you will have to exercise, the irregular meals, and inherent stress of your wedding planning.   Now is not the time to add the stress of dieting to your life.

Buy the size that fits. And if you do lose  weight?  It is much easier to take a dress in when you lose the weight than trying to add fabric to one that is to small.

Costs You May Not Have Considered in Your Dress Budget

When you set your wedding attire budget, do not think this is the amount you have to spend on your dress.  In addition to the base piece of the gown, you’ll pay taxes, (possibly shipping) and may need special undergarments including petticoats for some styles.

Alterations can add up to as much as one-third the cost of the dress.

Dress, earrings, accessories, wedding, bridalYou will also need to consider the cost of your veil or headdress, shoes and jewelry.

And don’t forget that you will have a cleaning bill after the wedding, and possibly the cost of having your gown preserved.

Before you shop, itemize all these items and know what you are willing and able to spend within your budget.  Be realistic and know where you are prepared to cut costs, if needed,  before you shop.

Dress Embellishments Are Expensive

Beading, crystals, pearls, and hand embroidery contribute beauty and elegance to almost any wedding gown.  They also add significantly to the cost.  Embellishments are almost always applied by hand, and in our automated world, high quality handwork is costly.  It may be worth it to you to have your dress sparkle and glitter.  Just be sure to factor it into your budget before you shop.

Be Wary of Mirrors

dress, wedding, bridal Mirrors can vary greatly and make you look very different from mirror to mirror.  Some unscrupulous bridal salons may even have the mirrors that are intended to make you look smaller, which is great for the ego, but not giving you a realistic look.

Want to true idea at what you look like in your dress?  Take photos or even videos from several different angles to see what you really look like in your dress. Take lots of angles.

Don’t forget to get pictures when you are sitting, walking, dancing, etc.  Do you get the look of what you see?  Are you comfortable?

The Pedestal

Do you know why many bridal salons place the bride on a pedestal when viewing the dress?  It is because the dress will hang straighter, when it does not touch the floor AND it make you look taller.  The elongated look also makes you look slimmer.  Magic!

Step off the pedestal before you buy and look at your dress from your natural height.

Fabric Matters

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The color, silhouette, and embellishments play a huge part in how your dress looks on you.    And the fabric itself is the key piece of how it will display on your physical frame.

Heavy, structured fabrics such as silk shantung, satin, taffeta, and laces hold their shapes and  will tend to smooth your figure.

The lighter fabrics including chiffon, unstructured silk, and organza tend to be more flowing,

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weightless and provide a floating look.  They are less flattering for brides with curves or body features you are looking to camouflage.

Think About Your Favorite Pieces of Clothing

Why do you like your favorite top or dress so much? Fit? Fabric? Color? Neckline? Silhouette?  The compliments you get when you wear it?

Consider the best components of your wardrobe and your everyday style as you look for wedding dress styles.  When you consider those elements in your dream dress, you will find a style and look that you are comfortable with and will make you a beautiful, confident bride.

Neckline and Top of the Dress

Every aspect of your wedding dress is important.  The top will be in most of your photos, especially close up pictures during the ceremony and dancing. Make sure the gown fits comfortably when you’re sitting down, does not slide out of place when dancing,  and that the neckline won’t require adjusting throughout the big day. You’ll be more comfortable and feel more beautiful when your gown’s neckline fits you.

Buying Your Dress Online

There are awesome deals when buying dresses online.  Sadly, there are also poorly reproduce knock-offs.  When you shop online, be sure to read site reviews.  And if the price looks too good to be true, then it probably is.  Move on to a site you can trust.

One way to have a high quality dress is purchasing pre-owned or sample gown.  I love this website.  they save you huge money on gorgeous gowns and have a full range of sizes.  Shop early and check back often  as their inventory changes constantly.  When you see what you want, go ahead and buy as it may not be there tomorrow.  (They will also help you sell your dress after the wedding. )

The Right Undergarments 

Select undergarments to wear when trying on dresses that are similar to what you plan t0 wear on your wedding day  If you are planning a strapless dress, don’t wear a bright red bra that will be sticking out or a black thong that will show shadows through a sheer dress.

If you know you are planning to buy shape wear use it when you try on dresses.  You will get a much more realistic picture of how the dress will look on you.

For your dress shopping appointments plan to wear nude or light blue panties (they camouflage even better than white under white) , a strapless bra and the shape wear of your choice.

A Wedding Day Beauty Look for Your Dress Appointment

To get the true effect of how you will look in your dress, try to copy your wedding day beauty look as closely as possible when you are dress shopping.  Apply makeup in the style you plan to wear, and hair up or down – the way you plan to wear it on your wedding day.  You will get a much more accurate picture of your total wedding look and you will feel more beautiful as you try on dresses when you look like a bride.

The Right Shoes are Important Too

I hope you did not read this heading and think “Oh, bother, here comes the lecture about what bridal shoes should look like.”  Not to worry, it is your day and I hope you will wear the shows you want to wear – from flip-flops to heels (or the currently trending sneakers, if you like.)

When shopping, be prepared to get the real look of your dress by wearing shoes with the heel height and style you plan to wear on your wedding day.  It is your choice if you want to wear bejeweled sneakers, or sky-high stilettos.  Itwedding,shoes, bridal, accessories is your day.

Wear shoes to your dress appointments that make you the same height you will be on your wedding day and with a similar style, so you will know how they feel with your dress and you get a clearer vision of how you will look.

The style of the shoe is also significant as you move.  We walk differently and adjust our gait according to the shoes we wear.  Do your stilettos catch in the lace trim of your dress when you walk?  Do you hold your shoulders back giving the regal bridal look when you wear sneakers?  You will only get the full vision of yourself as a bride when you wear the right shoes.

Move in Your Dress

Don’t forget to walk and sit and dance in your dress when you try it on, so you will know how you feel when you move, and how the dress reacts with your movements.

Hug someone about the height of your groom.  Put your hands over your head and shout YES.  Are you having a church wedding where you will need to kneel?  Try whatever moves you are likely to do on your wedding day. Give your dress a trial run.  Does it fall into place gracefully or will someone have to be arranging your dress all day to maintain your look when you move?

Looking for a Plus Size Dress? – Call Ahead Before You Shop

wedding, dress, plus sizeMany bridal salons sell plus size wedding gowns, but only stock a few, if any, in plus sizes.  You simply are not going to be able to gauge how much you like a dress if it is four or five sizes too small.  No amount of talk from your consultant will give you the vision  to love a dress.  (I know this from personal experience.)

Call ahead and ask how many dresses they have in their samples in or near your size (remember, bridal sizing is one or two sizes different from everyday sizing.)  If you have a particular style or designer in mind, ask if they have those, and if not, ask if they can get them for your appointment.

Don’t settle for excuses.  There are lots of salons who seek the business of us curvy brides.

Bonus & Often Overlooked:

Can you fit in the bathroom stall and go to the bathroom wearing your dress?  It is going to be a very loooong day if you cannot solve this issue.

Relax and Stop Looking

When shopping, don’t settle for a dress you will not be happy with.  If you feel pressured by the consultant, your mom, or your bossy bridesmaid, stop and refuse to buy until you are sure YOU love the dress and want to wear it on your wedding day.

Now that you have found your dream dress, stop looking.  You will end up second guessing yourself about your purchase if you (or others on your behalf) keep shopping.  Your dress is perfect.  Your groom will love it.  Focus your time and energy on all the other details that will make your wedding day the one you have dreamed about since you were five years old.

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